Today, and a few other times, I've noticed that when someone tries to talk about something serious and confrontational to me I just zone out and stare at nothing. I can hear what they're saying, and the responses whisper in my mind, but it's like I can't speak, can't move at all. I can't open my mouth. I get this huge fear that if I speak my thoughts, I'll hurt them and therefore push them away, but by being silent I push them away anyway, which is the fear I had in the first place. I'm sick of it. I want to be able to talk to someone and not have this happen. What is it and how can I stop it? I've fucked everything up with this guy today because I just shut down completely when we were trying to talk, and he got so frustrated and just...left.