So a friend of mine just got out of college and started working as a outpatient case manager. She's been picking my brain, trying to get a better understanding of SI'ing. She has the book knowledge but not yet the practical experience, so trying to gather as much as she can. Well, she asked me if I had ever been sexually abused or molested when I was younger. Now my memory from before I turned 7 is really very patchy, but as far as I could remember no, not ever. Apparently it is very common that SI'ers have been abused. Thinking back the other day at things I loved doing(IE horseriding) I remembered how I would always ride around with our horseriding instructor, who was the closests thing I had to a grandfather. Well, for a while there were rumors that he had propositioned a 17 year old at the riding school...Whenever we would have to go get some feed, or run an errand or something and I'd ride with him in the car(this is from age 10 till about 17), he'd put his hand on my leg...sometimes he'd kinda hold my thigh....his hands never touched anywhere more than that, but I remember it making me feel uncomfortable, but I never said anything. Would that be considered abuse? It's not that I'm looking for something to blame my SI'ing on, just wondered what people's thoughts were on the subject.