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not that i don't agree with you but sometimes when they lose that love that they had for a long time they feel lost, empty, alone, depressed...which leads to hating themselves and pondering what they did wrong which could possibly lead to suicide.
i don't think it's fair that you judge people for their issues in life. how would you like it if they judged you unfairly? I'm sure you wouldn't like that either.
i don't think it's fair that you judge people for their issues in life. how would you like it if they judged you unfairly? I'm sure you wouldn't like that either.
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There's nothing wrong with feeling that way; in fact, it's completely understandable. The challenge is to remain focused on improving your present situation as much as possible and to shift your attention away from the lives of others.
I don't think he/she is doing anything inappropriate - just being human.
Suppose a man is dying of cancer, all his family members are deceased, and he's been rejected by others all his life. Would you expect him to be able to relate to teens who are upset over a recent breakup?
While you're right that it obviously does no good to attack one another, surely you can understand how frustrated and alienated people with serious problems feel. The fact is that they have very few people to talk with who can genuinely relate to their situations. Those with more common problems have a large group of members who are in the same boat, so it's much easier for them to find common ground, find support, and make friends.
I don't think he/she is doing anything inappropriate - just being human.
Suppose a man is dying of cancer, all his family members are deceased, and he's been rejected by others all his life. Would you expect him to be able to relate to teens who are upset over a recent breakup?
While you're right that it obviously does no good to attack one another, surely you can understand how frustrated and alienated people with serious problems feel. The fact is that they have very few people to talk with who can genuinely relate to their situations. Those with more common problems have a large group of members who are in the same boat, so it's much easier for them to find common ground, find support, and make friends.
I think that sometimes you have to remember that what people present with as their problem, is not actually the real reason, or root cause, it may just be the straw that broke the camel's back.
Everyone has different experiences and you never know what has truly happened before, or to make someone feel that way about something.
Everyone has different experiences and you never know what has truly happened before, or to make someone feel that way about something.
'Teens who are upset over recent breakups', aren't all going to have the same history, have the same dynamic of relationship, find common ground or make friends. The 'common problems' you talk of can be of great seriousness and be life threatening, because after all, love and relationships involve vulnerability and trust. A lot of people, regardless of age, do attempt suicide because of a relationship breaking down and being a 'teen' doesn't mean that an adult cannot empathise with loss.
To the OP: Love doesn't necessarily mean healthy love.
I can understand how depression based on the absence of love can be. When it comes to people complaining about their love life's, it's like being a starving man and having to listen to a customer complaining about the quality of their meal.
Just have to force yourself to remember that so much of someone's self esteem can be wrapped up in having the ideal relationship, that it's natural for something to give.
Just have to force yourself to remember that so much of someone's self esteem can be wrapped up in having the ideal relationship, that it's natural for something to give.
I agree with this, there are alot of reasons as to why someone may feel suicidle, people handle lifes problems differently. Some problems affect others majorly and some don't affect anyone at all. Thats the way life is.
I don't see why people can't respect other peoples opinions and move on instead of throwing insults. Typical SF eh, no wonder this site has gone to shit.
I don't see why people can't respect other peoples opinions and move on instead of throwing insults. Typical SF eh, no wonder this site has gone to shit.
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