sick world

[lost_child]

This world is very very very sick.

My niece 11yrs disclosed on sunday nite that her step father has been sexually abusing her ~ if that's not sick enough she been fighting brain cancer since shew as born, and still has brain tumours...her sick mother, emotionally and physically abused her, comments like you got a screw lose in ur head (this is a child who has brain cancer..very very very very insensitive).

Her brother who was removed from he's mothers 3 years ago, I found out was also raped by he's step father. my niece of 6 has a heart mumur that is getting worse, her chest hurts all the time, she gets out of breath even when just sitting down...found that out last nite.

Everything is getting worse, I'm not coping...my counsellor is away.. I've no1 to ask for support. I don't know what else to do, I'm worrying about my nieces...I keep having flashbacks. I've self harmed so much lately, and I'm not eating and when I do I will either make myself sick or I am just sick i've lost a stone in 2 weeks, my bmi is now 22.7 so I'm not underweight, still fat.

Lifes a mess.....but still I must keep on....although I just wish i was dead, but one day soon I will be that's the only thing keeping me going, is that I will die very soon.

 

[butterfly12274]

this world is so sick, I myself don't see another way out as well. Sorry, at least we are still a family and these things are rather exceptional I guess. *sigh* :hug:

 

[Dave_N]

Oh my God lost_child. Just when you think that things couldn't possibly get any worse, you find out that your poor niece and nephew were both raped by their sick, pedofillic step father. That must have brought back a lot of bad memories. You should report him to the police and have him put in jail, so he can be raped in jail and know how it feels. I'm sorry to hear about your other neice with the heart murmor. Do your best to be strong lost_child. Your family really, really needs you right now. I know that with all that you've been through, it must be hard to carry on, but they need you in their lives.

 

[gentlelady]

I am sorry to hear about the health issues those children face, but horrified by what they have had to endure. He needs to be stopped before he causes any more to those darling little ones. I am keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you to find a way to save those kids. Please take care lost_child. You are stronger thanyou realize. :hug:

 

[Smashed__]

are you or anyone she's told going to tell the police?

 

[Lonely_Angel]

Hiya, First of all, sorry for what you have just found out - its always hard when any child gets abused but for one who already has so much to deal with - its even harder.

I understand you are feeling so much confusion and pain right now but you need to be strong for your neices and nephew. They need someone strong in their life who can help them through this.

Although I dont think anyone ever gets over abuse - life does become easier. I went through alot regarding that and I temporarily lost my way, I self harmed and I turned to alcohol which wasnt the best idea as it didnt help me - it just made things worse. I found comfort in having a few people around me who kept me on the straight and narrow.

I hope things sort themselves out and you can all live in peace again

 

[lost_child]

We have gone to the police and social services, the moment she disclosed the abuse we removed her from her mothers home and spoke to out lawyer and the police about getting a temporary care order until it all goes to court. We are doing everything we legally can, and trying to get the support they both need. My nephew has come on leaps and bounds since moving out of he's mothers and has spent 3 years in counselling...so hopefully my niece will repsond to counselling the same way he as. Its disgusting as they are still 2 children in the house, one is my nephew and the other he's half sister.....but until either one says something or social services remove them from the home there's nothing we can do...We have been trying to remove them from the home for over a year now but the children have been to scared to talk......its not right. The child that is no relation to us, has no other family and so not to split and distrupt all the children too much my brother has said he will also take her in...were trying everything, but nothing seems to be working.

Lonely_angel, I also used drink and drugs to numb the pain, self harming has got worse...I need to somehow stay strong and to be honest I'm not coping...

 

[Lonely_Angel]

Hiya, I do understand what you are going through. Its very hard to cope when somuch chaos is going on around you but you seem to be doing a great job with regard to helping and supporting the children. I know what its like to be scared to talk about whats going on and although you cannot make them talk, by just being there will hopefully encourage them to speak out.

I know its so hard to "cope" and be strong for others when you feel like your fading on the inside. I self harmed for 3 years, drink, drugs, physically hurting myself. Its hard to overcome these things but you have to take each one a step at a time. I think it took me roughly about a year to stop completely. To help with the self harm Id use another object, playdough was a great one, or a block of wood, Id scratch that instead of myself. I know people recommend holding an ice cube on your skin - cant say ive tried that one though. The drugs I guess I had a lot of self will although it was hard at times. I just stopped all contact with drugs/cigarettes and I used a lot of gum.

You seem like a very determined person and I know for one that you are not alone. If you want someone to talk to then I am always here - I may not be much use but Im a great listener.
Im thinking of you at this time
Love Lonely Angel xx