Sigh.. why girls must be so difficult...?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Summer.Rain, Mar 20, 2009.

  1. Summer.Rain

    Summer.Rain Well-Known Member

    I dated this girl ONCE! only freaking one time! one date!
    we talked, i spent some cash on her, we watched a movie together
    i knew it will not work since the moment i saw her
    but i wanted to give her a good time, what can i say, i wanted a company
    and i was bored overall, so we spent some time together...

    After that i sent her a PM on the dating website, telling her as best as i could
    that i dont want anything to do with her (sort of "its not you, its me" thing)
    At first she was surpries, then confused and somewhat angry
    but looks like she is more angry about herself then about me..
    And now from the words she sent me, she is freaking suicdial...
    she sent me messege where she said "i better would of end up dead"
    or "shame i wasnt born dead" and things like "no one wants me" and "i am garbage"...

    and im like.. WTF :blink:
  2. Lovecraft

    Lovecraft Well-Known Member

    Why did you go on a date if you didn't want it to come to something?
  3. AlexDanish

    AlexDanish Account Closed

    It's easy. Some people use dating for fun, not a commitment. The same way sex is used for enjoyment, not procreation. Etcetera.

    WARUMONO Member

    You should probably just ignore people like that.
    You were doing nothing wrong.
    Be gentle with her but get out of contact with the girl as quick as you can.
    No one needs a person like that making things difficult just for some attention.
  5. Lovecraft

    Lovecraft Well-Known Member

    Then make your intentions clear before doing anything. It's expected that if you are going in a date you intend to find love and all that.
  6. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    Whoa! It's one date. That's the pre-trial date. Your first three dates are equivalent to sticking your toe in a drawn bath. There's no commitment on a first date except for both people to remain civil.
  7. Summer.Rain

    Summer.Rain Well-Known Member

    Let me guess, you never actualy had a date?
    Or you had but nothing ever came up from it am i right? :dry:
  8. Beautiful Disaster

    Beautiful Disaster Forum Buddy SF Supporter

    some guys are difficult too..

    but i guess that you just caught a bad one who wants to make you feel guilty..

    dont worry too much about it, plenty of normal girls that are out there..
  9. mdmefontaine

    mdmefontaine Antiquities Friend

    dating is sifting. i'ts deciding. it's exploring.
    i'ts not emotional manipulation by threats of suicide

    you didn't do anything wrong.

    sometimes dating seems SO overrated.
    just sayin.
    makes me tired to think of it. :rolleyes:
  10. shades

    shades Staff Alumni

    If you knew it wouldn't work from the "first moment you saw her" and you were "bored" and wanted to "spend some time together" with someone, why didn't you just call a hooker?

    Also, your lack of compassion about her feelings is somewhat disturbing. It's not your fault, but WTF, why do it in the first place?
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  11. Lovecraft

    Lovecraft Well-Known Member

    What he was doing was tantamount to putting his foot in the water when he didn't want a bath.
  12. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    Nah, dating is the bath not the girl.


    I don't think he should have written her a letter telling the poor woman why he had no interest of doing anything with her. But the girl sounds a bit tipped. :mellow:
  13. Entoloma43

    Entoloma43 Well-Known Member

    If you knew it wouldn't work from the moment you saw her, you shouldn't have gone out on a date. You brought these problems on yourself.