It should last forever and ever and ever and ever. :rolleyes: :tongue: Dunno depends on the person, and how well you know them, and how comfy they are with hugs, you should be able to tell be the facial exressions/reactions and body laungage afterwards.
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Edit/note: which watching and understanding is hard sometimes with people like us because we kinda dissociate and turn numb.....so you have to really try and pay attention.
lol :tongue: I seem to overthink just about everything.. I mean come on I'm actually planning a hug :-o ... oh well. He's semi hugged me before... I'm sure it'll be fine, I'm just paranoid I'll do sumthing stupid:rolleyes:
what the hell!!this isnt positive so whatever I dont care... I fucked up my attempt at hugging today.. my god is that even possible.. I shouldnt even live .. its like a basic human thing to do and I cant even go through with a decent hug ..............
Hugging is a basic human thing to do? Well I've never got the hang, I feel uncomfortable being touched by people so I generally keep my distance. Only once in the last 20 years have I hugged someone, I got a bit drunk and gave them a big hug, it just went on far too long and everybody thought I was odd and then I just basically started crying, 'cos it's nice but it's not who I am... as I said, I generally don't like people touching me.
What is really bizarre is when you go to a club, meet someone nice and when you leave they go to give you a really big hug. I just shake their hands and thank them for a pleasant evening. They then usually ask if you're alright to which my answer is along the lines of 'not really'. Ah such things keep me amused though, it would be boring if I was in any sense normal. It's could be just cos I'm a bloke and that's the way blokes are though, dunno really.
Oh one thing I forgot to mention in my last post, when I was talking about hugging and I said it was all horribly embarrassing, I didn't mention that the only person who didn't feel uncomfortable was the person being hugged. You see, some people can be very understanding - even my mate was and he was going out with her at the time.
Sorry, I know I'm probably talking drivel, I wish I was able to give some really good advice about relationships, but unfortunately I can't. I've only been in one, it lasted 6 weeks and I didn't even know about it until we split up. Life can be strange, and yet somehow people do understand.
thanks.. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one thats horrid at hugging.. I'm just really not looking forward to our next confrontation... he didnt hug me back so I'm a bit scared.. and it was increadably awkward...
I have a new roommate (2 months now) who has a nice girlfriend who stays over sometimes. It looked like they were breaking up tonight. She stayed behind to talk to me for a bit and tell me that she wasn't going to be around. I gave her a hug and she hugged me back. We never did that before. I think she needed it and I wanted to do it.
I'm glad I did. For once, I did the right thing and I'm not ashamed.