Simply don't know what to do anymore

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by Penguin Attack, Jul 7, 2014.

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  1. Hello!
    I'm a recent new member to this forum site so I'm going to talk about the reasons on why I have joined. Recently, I just turned 21 and the main reason I have been starting to have suicidal thoughts almost every day is because I'm just sick and tired of being single without ever having a girlfriend yet. A few months ago i almost killed myself. Anyways, I'm a senior now in college and it just hurts me so much inside when I see couples around and such. Whenever I see these kind of things I almost instantly start to think of killing myself. I am a confident guy and am able to talk to girls and stuff but it just seems that most girls I meet are already with someone. I did ask one girl out a few months ago but got rejected. At this point in my life I just don't see much hope for the future in getting a girlfriend and I do not want to live my life being single like this. To be honest I would rather be dead. Girls always seem to get it the easy way though. Well this is enough blabbing for me so if you have anything helpful to say go ahead. By the way I know that many people post comments about these kind of things but I feel like I should share my side anyways.
     
  2. Butterfly

    Butterfly Pokémon Master Staff Alumni SF Author SF Supporter

    You are still very, very young and you have plenty of time in your life to get a girlfriend. Being in a relationship isn't the be all and end all of life, it takes a lot of commitment and effort to make it work. You first need to work on being happy outside of a relationship before you should consider being in a relationship because the chances are, you may still feel suicidal even if you do get into a relationship.
     
  3. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Hi there and welcome, I think you really need to be happy and love yourself before someone else can love you, I agree with butterfly, it does take a lot of commitment to make it work. I've been in horrible relationships-REALLY horrible. Please, take some time and it will come to you naturally, don't go for the first woman you see just because you never had a girlfriend, be choosy and careful :hug:
     
  4. K8E

    K8E Well-Known Member

    Hi penguin, try and concentrate on doing stuff that you enjoy and living life without dwelling too much on having a girlfriend. I know that it's easier said than done, but it is possible. Find activities, clubs, sports, classes that you like and make the most of any friends that you have to socialise (if that's what you like). The other advice I would give you is to really try and see girls as people rather than as potential girlfriends or 'already taken'. I used to worry a lot about being 'left on the shelf' when I was much younger...and stayed in some terrible relationships because of that fear. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self to relax and have fun! But I can tell you instead ;)
    Great name by the way!
     
  5. Yes, I know what you're talking about. I'm happy with myself. I just think of always killing myself because I don't have a girlfriend. I just really see a point in living if things are going to be like this anyways. Imagine living in your own place and with no one to be around you. I'm afraid that I'm going to eventually be like that and if that happens then I'll kill myself for sure. Thanks for the reply though!
     
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