Small whatchamacallit.

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Socialman, Aug 6, 2010.

  1. Socialman

    Socialman Well-Known Member

    Yes, a small whatchamacallit. I have one, and it severely adds to my depression. I've spoken with a urologist and recently found out all devices, exercises, and pills are scams. They do not fix a small whatchamacallit. My only choice is to get a surgery in which they construct a new area with skin from under my armpit with lessened sensitivity, and a chance of bleeding, swelling, and infection. Or I can get my suspensory ligaments cut, leaving the whatchamacallit pointing to the ground. The surgery is very expensive, and the dissatisfaction rate is practically at 70%.

    I am fit, and decent at socializing when I want to. I would be more active in seeking relationships if this one problem was fixed.
  2. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Far and away the most important question: what are your specs? Both length and girth, please.
  3. Madam Mim

    Madam Mim Well-Known Member

    Darksider, please, please, PLEASE believe me when I say that this does NOT matter. I can understand that it must be very closely linked to confidence for men, because of all the media fuss and obviously there is the perception that size is important. It really isn't.

    I have been with men of varying sizes, and although my current boyfriend has the largest whatchamacallit, it's not that which satisfies me, it's the other stuff he does. And yet, my first partner wasn't very well endowed, but that didn't matter at all.

    Please don't consider the surgery. Take the money it would cost and use it on treating your dates and use the time you'd have spent in bed following the surgery nursing your whatchamacallit to learn to satisfy women in other ways if you're concerned (good oral sex is ALWAYS appreciated!).

    I hope this helps. Please trust me. Your future partner will thank you for it.

  4. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry this is worrying you but in my experience (I'm female) the old saying is true..

    "It's the quality not the quantity that matters"

    Maybe get some books and read how to give pleasure to a woman....

    And if you find someone who loves you it won't be about 'size'..
  5. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    I would urge you to have a read of this thread:

    I expect that you'll mostly get the same responses.

    I would also suggest this forum:

    I know you said that the exercises are a scam, but I do know many people who've had success with them. Worth a try, surely?

    There is also something called a "penis extension sleeve", if you really find nothing else works and you're worried about sex, these might be a good alternative for you.

    Don't follow this link if you're under 18.

    As a woman, though, I can honestly say that penis size doesn't matter. Women don't spend all their free time sitting around, comparing their boyfriends. Thats what virgins do when they're trying to pretend they've had sex, usually. Any woman who cares about you wouldn't want you to have that surgery.

    EDIT: I agree with aoeu, you'd recieve better advice if we knew the specific measurements. Also, do you have any particular medical condition that causes you to be smaller than usual? Have you always been that way, or could it be to do with any meds you take?
  6. Adramelech

    Adramelech Banned Member

    I've only ever had sex with 2 different girls, as well as overheard conversations between girls about my friends that I'd rather not have heard. All of them placed a huge importance on cock size. One of the ones I fucked went around spreading rumors about mine. When you hear a woman say "It doesn't matter about your size," they are trying to be helpful and supportive, which isn't a bad thing, but when reality comes in, penis size does matter. You don't want to rush into something thinking that size doesn't matter, just to find out that it does and be left completely humiliated.

    And apparently I have a below-average sized one too. So don't think I'm trying to put you down or anything.

    Girls are fucked.
  7. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    This made me lol.

    Those kinds of women are called stupid bitches. No offence, but they must have a pretty pathetic life if they go around spreading rumours about someones penis size. Like seriously?
  8. Adramelech

    Adramelech Banned Member

    Well I'm glad you found some sort of humor in it then LongRoad, you virgin. And don't try to disporove me, otherwise you're a virgin.
  9. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Banned that quickly, eh? Darksider, PLEASE do not listen to what Adramelech has to say - it's been demonstrated quite nicely in a variety of studies that what he says is not true.
  10. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    Pretty much. Women aren't sex addicts that only care about the size of your sex organs. They KNOW there is more to a relationship then sex. If sex was all there is then there weouldn't be many happy people :unsure:.

    I'd very much rather a guy I like for who he is. You would get all kinds of wankers of you weighed people up by their size...
  11. infiniti1027

    infiniti1027 Member

    Darksider, PLEASE PLEASE believe me when I tell you that size truly doesn't matter ... but confidence does. I am begging you to believe me on that.

    I have had 3 significant relationships in my life. I have had sex with more men than that, but these are the ones that count.

    My first husband was average in size and average is 5 and 3/4 inches. My second husband was 8 inches. My most recent long-term boyfriend was barely 5".

    I was in love with all these men. I am still in love with the last one, although we are no longer together.

    My first husband was a mediocre lover and we were together for 14 years and we had two children together.

    My second husband was very good and we had very good sex together but he did sometimes hurt me. I was with him for almost 10 years and due to him, I thought that size DID matter and became a major size maven and only wanted to be with larger men.

    When I met my last boyfriend I was very disappointed in his size, but he quickly turned me around!!! My last boyfriend was an excellent lover, and he was the smallest of the three, but he had incredible confidence in his lovemaking and his primary goal was my satisfaction. He did not focus on his lack of size or worry about it being a deterrent to his skill as a lover.

    PLEASE build up your confidence in yourself. Please realize that the body's primary sexual organ is the BRAIN and work with that to be most creative in working toward your partner's satisfaction. The best thing you can do is locate the g-spot, participate in a great deal of foreplay, position yourself so that the tip of your penis penetrates at just the right angle.

    The nerve endings of the vagina are right around the first two inches in, so anything extra is sincerely a waste, honestly.

    Build up your confidence, and feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk more in depth. Because I assure you, as a former size ***** who's now converted, I promise you SIZE DOES NOT MATTER!!!!
  12. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    I agree....
  13. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    Hm, I'm guessing this was meant as a dig at my post.
    I know this user is banned now, so this isn't a reply to them. Just if anyone else was upset by what I wrote - I'm not using the term virgin as an insult. I'm just saying it is what people tend to do, in all honesty.
    When people lie, they tend to base lies around clich├ęs to make themselves more believable. I don't know many women who've actually had sex who really care about the size of someones penis.
  14. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    I do.

    "Ow my cervix!"

    Length is not desireable for the actual act of vaginal sex, scientific studies reflect this. (Though a long penis may be attractive in fantasy, and gay guys and women into anal enjoy it.)
  15. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    *shudders* Okay, thats true, but not exactly what I meant.. XD
    My bad XP
  16. jenniferelaine

    jenniferelaine Well-Known Member

    Coming from a female..

    I haven't slept with a lot of guys, but I've had a variety. I've had from small to "You're planning to stick that where, exactly?". So long as you are capable of penetration, and you are a talented lover, you shouldn't get any complaints.

    Personally I have never complained about a guy being too small, but I have complained about a guy being too big, and untalented. Pardon the expression, but guys with big thingers sometimes think that they don't need to know what to do..just stick it in and pound away. And that, my friend, is the WORST thing you can do.

    Only the first couple of inches of the vagina has nerve endings. Even the G-Spot is located only a couple of inches in. Beyond that, all a woman feels is pressure. So really, all the extra length anyone else has is good for is getting spooge nearer the cervix. Oh, and you have the possibility of never making a girl gag during oral sex?
  17. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    I've actually heard thats really, really common.
    I can't speak for everyone, but my friends and I all agree we'd rather be with someone smaller than average than someone way too big. Though the definition of "too big" varies from person to person, obviously x)
  18. fooror

    fooror Well-Known Member

    What you'll find on pornos, is that dudes with huge dongs will often not utilise the whole length, just a portion of it. Testament, I think, to the fact that the ladies don't really want a tree trunk up there!

    I think most blokes wish they had a massive wang...I know I do. But in reality, it does the job, and isn't an issue. 5ish inches certainly isn't a problem, you're only into the 'small' category when you're looking at 2-3 inches I reckon.
  19. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    Hi Darksider. Forget about those penile enlargement surguries. They're all a complete waste of time and money. It's unfortunate though, because plastic surgeons can make a woman's breasts as large as she wants, but we guys with small dicks are basically stuck with them. Where are the silicone penile implants?
  20. Rayne

    Rayne Well-Known Member

    Unfortunately I can't remember where now, but I remember reading somewhere that they lie about how big the actors are in porn and use clever angles, lighting and all sorts to make them look bigger than they are.

    Just out of interest, why DO men tend to wish they were bigger than they are? Genuinely curious, as I'm not sure about other women but I don't really tend to worry about the size of my vagina much! :laugh: