So hopeless

Discussion in 'Help Me! I Need to Talk to Someone.' started by Misspeach81, Aug 27, 2016.

  1. Misspeach81

    Misspeach81 New Member

    My husband says I'm choosing to be self loathing and to have negative thoughts. He said if I loved him I would just stop and do something positive for us. Whenever life gets too hard I take a sleeping pill, and he waits till I'm half passed out and has sex with me. He says I need to prove my love and stop taking pills. I don't know what to do. He's lied to me so many times about liking other girls and watching porn. I have no more energy to try and get over it. I don't know what to do. I hate myself so much. Please help.
  2. Frances M

    Frances M Mountain Woman

    Rape is something you need to take more seriously.

    My bf doesn't want me taking anti-depressants, I'm going to take them anyway because they help me.

    I am a doormat with my bf, I'm the first to admit it. But I'm now at a point where I KNOW I am worth more, but it took many years for me to get here. I have a plan to leave him and I'm implementing it over the next year. My situation isn't like yours. But you have to be ready to see that you are worth more. If he lies, cheats, watches porn (unless you don't mind) and rapes you in your sleep, I really hope that you seek help for it. No advice will help you unless you're ready to take action. I hope you see that.
  3. Misspeach81

    Misspeach81 New Member

    Thank you
  4. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Hugs. You deserve help. Do you have a counsellor or doctor. Maybe they could help explain things to him.
  5. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    If you are not in a state to consent it is rape. How dare he? I agree with the above poster that said you need to take this more seriously, what will he do next? You don't deserve to be lied to, you deserve to be with someone more empathetic. Please tell him to back off, the pills are prescribed because you need them, if he doesn't like that then that is his problem not yours. Honestly, I'd leave him. Please keep talking to us here if it helps.
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  6. ghostangelcake7

    ghostangelcake7 Well-Known Member

    Do not tolerate someone who merely USES your body. Ever. You are worthy of being safe and respected. He is totally UNworthy of you.
    Been there...except he used booze and brainwashing (aka mind-rape). Why do we get to worked up for these types of men? Liking other girls, porn? There's no reason to stay with this person. You are your own person, don't let him control and use YOU.