Minding my own business and the phone rings, its my older cousin, I'll call him R. R is the son of my mother's twin (my mother passed 3 years ago this coming Feb. due to Alzheimers). Her twin is still living. He explained who he was and what was going on with his mother. He has moved in with her as Alzheimers has started and she is apparently going to be in a wheelchair for a while. Now this sounds quite normal doesn't it? Can anyone guess where the problem is? R is 10 years older than me and is one of my abusers. I find it incomprehensible that he can make a phone call like that and be all normal. Granted this took place what 35-40 years ago, maybe he forgot. Do perpretrators forget? I don't know. I certainly haven't forgotten. They both want me to drive down and visit. To be the good neice. To do the right thing. I don't want to. No way.