They obviosuly don't understand at all. now staying locked up etc isn't going to help you but neither is forcing you out into the world. Very major reason i have not seen hardly any of my relatives in a very long time. They have alot of opinions and judgements and always think they are right... point is we can't all be right because that would be impossible and someone who hasn't experienced these things won't understand, the best thing would be to be supportive i think, just let someone know you are there if they want you, not to force your opinions on them and belittle their problems. :hug: take the time you need to get through this particularly hard time, you are still fighting which is great, and winning at the moment as u are still here. This person doesn't understand, if they are in your life a relatively high amount you might like to consider explaining your feelings perhaps in a letter or something.. if you were comfortable with that of course, otherwise try not to let there ignorance drag you down further, I have a feeling they meant well, if they didn't care they probably wouldn't have even said anything or been alot nastier... They seem to have been trying the 'tough love' approach, but not really getting how that would make you feel. stay strong, you can get through this, just take the time you need :hug: