So uncertain about my future

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by SAVE_ME, May 22, 2009.

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  1. SAVE_ME

    SAVE_ME Well-Known Member

    I'm really afraid of what's going to happen to me now. I don't know what to do anymore. I was hoping to restart my university course in September because I got so depressed this year that I just let myself crash and burn. I was hoping for a fresh new start this Autumn, but now I don't know if it is too late. I saw my personal tutor earlier this week about restarting my course, and he told me he doesn't have the authority to make that decision and that I should e-mail another guy (the head of department) and talk to him about it. I e-mailed this guy as soon as I got home. Unfortunately though, I haven't received a reply yet, so either he hasn't read it yet because he's busy, or he's dismissed it. Anyway, term ends today and I fear it may be too late for me to do anything now. I really feel like kicking myself in the teeth right now! I was also trying to apply for a room in the halls but no one ever got back to me about that, so it looks like history's repeating itself and I'm gonna end up back in the same situation I was in at the beginning of last year - no college, no job, living at home with parents, and that was a really sh1tty time for me, I really don't wanna be back there again! I really don't! When I asked my personal tutor he said it shouldn't be too late, but to be honest I don't hold much hope. I just fear for my future now. The only other option if things don't pan out, is to get a job, but the way the economy is at the moment, the chances of me landing a job (especially in my area) are slim to none.

    Looks like I ballsed things up again! :dry:
  2. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    What area are you in?
    Everyone's scared about their futures :hug:
    I'm living at home with my parents right now without school or a job. I might be going back to school in the fall, or just get a full-time job.
    You don't think you would be able to find a job in your area? There's nothing wrong with taking some time off from school if it's too much for you. I mean even if you can't get in, it's not the end of the world :hug:
  3. Crue-K

    Crue-K Well-Known Member

    Most UK universities have a mitigating circumstances procedure. It varies between institutions but basically it is a form to fill in explaining why you want to restart or retake a year etc. Put in as much information as possible, don't hold back any info e.g depression, mental health, suicidal feelings and personal circumstances such as accomodation, friends or family. This should be given to your program leader/head of year (you don't normally have to inform your reasons to any tutors). This form will then be passed to the exam board who will make a formal decision. Remember that there is help available within universities for personal problems but they are not always fully utilised because of perceived stigma.

    I've just finished my phd, and in between starting it and finishing, I got divorced and had 2 lenghty stays on a psychiatric ward.

    It might seem like a lot of hassle/hard work, but it will be worth it.
  4. Anime-Zodiac

    Anime-Zodiac Well-Known Member

    I went through a similar thing like the one you find yourself in. I wanted to restart my course/year and enquired about it in perhaps May? Anyways I managed to restart it.
    The head of the department will most likely want to know if this time around you can complete the year. They will most likely want to know if things are better and different this time.

    When did you send the head of department the e-mail?
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