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So utterly confused

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by JustScott, Feb 28, 2014.

  1. JustScott

    JustScott Well-Known Member

    I have gotten to the point where I have absolutely no idea what my sexual orientation is. Like, at all. It was made harder when I was introduced to such terms as pansexual, asexual, the plight of bringing whether you are just asexual but romantic, asexual aromantic, I don't know!

    Can you be asexual but still have a sex drive? I mean, I enjoy...normal solo performances, but I'm finding myself disinterested in sex with a partner. It's really weird, because I enjoy hugs, and kisses.

    I just don't know anymore. am I bisexual, asexual - pan(a)sexual romantic? -.-

    Why do we have labels like this in the first place? I mean, love is love, is love right?

    Have a banjo playing frog. :frog_banjo:
  2. Twocky61

    Twocky61 Banned Member

    Scottdrummer you are not unlike a lot of people

    Look at all the guys who are aroused by online porn & 'solo performances', as you yourself put it; for myself I find hugging cuddling kissing with my gf far more important than sex; after all there are hookers if I really wanted it

    Perhaps you (& maybe me) are pan(a)sexual romantic

    So no need for you to worry really; whatever works for you is all that matters

    tc Scottdrummer

  3. Cat of Spades

    Cat of Spades Well-Known Member

    It's okay, whether you choose to pursue men or women it doesn't matter, ultimately what does matter is that you are comfortable with whoever you decide to be your partner.

    That is what is important, don't worry too much about the details as long as you end up happy.
  4. Syn

    Syn Well-Known Member

    Who cares about what your preferences are labeled as, why let yourself be confused by it? As you said, love is love dude. So take the advice of the banjo playing frog: Chill, smile, and do what you do.
  5. JustScott

    JustScott Well-Known Member

    Yeah, I'm trying to relax and smile about things, but I want to be able to put this to rest. I don't know - they say you feel a little better after you get a diagnosis because you know what you're dealing with - is it the same here? Will I be comfortable with partners if I know for sure what my orientation is and don't have questions lingering in my head?

    It doesn't help when I know my family won't be okay if I told them about being bisexual. They're just not okay with that kind of thing.