Right, long story short, theres this girl i really like at work. Was getting quite mixed signals off her (Which is odd because I look like a toad and she's quite cute). Signals were stuff like her demanding I sat next to her, quite strong eye contact, playing with her hair, the usual stuff. So I ask her out, she says yes, I think "Result!!!" I arrange for us to go bowling, thought its a nice fun date, very little pressure and quite a nice environment. She calls me up the day before and says "Im not sure what your intentions are but I'm already going out with someone so I think its best I don't go with you" Fair enough, Im a monster, I can deal with that, what I dont understand is: 1: Why did she agree to go out with me then drop me at the last minute? Why couldnt she just be straight up with me? 2: What the hell do I do now? This was the first girl I've asked out in 15 months because my confidence is through the floor. There are no other girls where I work who have expressed any sort of interest in me, Im well entrenched in the "friends zone" with all of them. 3: What do you do about idiots who give you little platitudes of advice like "theres someone for everyone" and "it'll happen someday" yet when asked for any practical help (ie: Introduce me to one of your friends), they don't bother.