social anxiety

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by shicky, Aug 19, 2006.

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  1. shicky

    shicky Member

    Just curious if anyone else here is suffering from this. I have a pretty severe case and haven't yet attempted to get any help for it. I am about to start my senior year of high school and I am just terrified. I am afraid of the future. I will be going to college soon enough and I am not sure that I can handle it. I will need a job at some point and it seems impossible for me to get one.:unsure: I just want to give up. Anyways, anyone else have SA?
     
  2. Saoirse

    Saoirse Guest


    There are many people here that suffer from social anxiety, from less severe cases to extreme. I have social anxiety so a very small extent.

    You aren't alone.
     
  3. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    Yes I do and it's making my life a misery I must admit. Didn't always have it... in fact, I used to be a teacher, read in church etc etc but now I can't go out alone (except in car) and can't go anywhere busy. :sad: It's shite!
     
  4. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    Oh yeah, I definately have it as well. I'm starting college on Monday and I'm quite sure I won't make a single friend or anything there, just like last year. :sad: :sad: :sad:
     
  5. Lucie

    Lucie Well-Known Member

    Im sure I have a mild case of this, even doing something small like going to the corner shop is hugely stressful for me. It sucks so bad.

    I hardly ever go out alone, I always need someone with me. I wish I wasn't like this but I am.:sad:
     
  6. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    Hmm, now I'm not sure if I really have social anxiety, or maybe not as bad as some others.
    I have no problem going out in public like getting groceries or leaving the house . I just cant find myself to make friends, join clubs at my university, blah blah blah. I have an extremely low self-esteem.
     
  7. Neverhere

    Neverhere Guest

    I've been wondering for a while if i have social anxiety. I left school last year and went to college for three whole days before quitting. My family think i never gave it a chance but i knew it wouldn't be for me. I was convinced i wouldsnt make a single friend. I have spent most of the past year inside, i hardly ever go out and when i do i panic a lot. I'm also irrational about minor incidents e.g i had a friend in jail who i wrote to but then i decided to break the contact recently he sent me another letter and i blew it out of proportion believing he would come knocking on my door when he gets out and thinking all stupid things. In big crowds im no good either, i always think somethnig bad has to happen. And truthfully i dont want to go out anymore, in here i am safer and nobody can hurt me or bother me. I think im getting sick of people in general, when they gossip or say ridiculous things ( like thats so gay! when it blatantly can't be described that way) So i dont mean to offend anyone but can someone attempt to answer me?
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    I went to a pyschologist once who diagnosed me as over sensitive and paranoid/irrational but this is like something i havent really felt before so any help is appreciated.
     
  8. shicky

    shicky Member

    Sounds for sure like you have agoraphobia. Not to say that you don't also have social anxiety. I'm no expert though. I would recommend talking to a doctor about it.
     
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  9. Neverhere

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    thnx for replying i told my grandma how i feel cause we were on about me gettin a job and she said it sounded like i was getting depression! But i told her i wasnt but she said i should see someone but then she gave me the whole pull yourself together no sympathy angle. Like my mother. I just wish someone would help me or ask me if im okay.
     
  10. shicky

    shicky Member

    I know how you feel. If you have the opportunity to see a doctor, you should definitely do it. Unfortunately, you probably aren't going to get much sympathy from people unless they fully understand what you are going through. But if they don't have social anxiety, they really can't understand. Have you ever tried explaining it to them? I don't know if that would help but it may be worth a try. My parents are on my case about getting a job as well. Very annoying. Feel free to pm me if you need to talk about anything.
     
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  11. Neverhere

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    I would see a doctor but my mothes worried about all other shit coming out if i do and so i really can't. But yeah they keep saying you cant stay inside forever and i already know tht but im scared of becoming friends with ppl in case i get hurt again. so i think thats were all of this stems from plus as i aforementioned about depression i told my gran i dont have it but i can recognize the signs (brother suffers) plus my mum nd aunt are in the medicine career track. I think i probably do have it, i have no self esteem i dont care tht im gaining weight, i dont want to go out of the house the only time i wear clothes instead of pajamas is when i have to go to my grans. A few months ago all i thought about was suicide tho i've always been inclined to it. And i used to self harm a hell of a lot. I am doing good with tht tho i havent harmed in over eight months :biggrin: But i also know unless i explain how i feel i wont get help but i cant talk to my family. One cause i know theyll only get it all wrong anyway and two i dont feel i can. So basically it's a catch twenty - two. Sori for ranting on but had to get it all out :biggrin: lol
     
  12. shicky

    shicky Member

    Well congratulations on not harming yourself in 8 months. I'm very glad to hear that. I am kind of in the same situation as far as explaining it to my family. They will either think that I am making it up or they will tell me to just get over it. And I just don't feel like trying to talk to them anymore. I too have been considering suicide as of late. I just hate living like this. But we can't give up. We can beat this. We will beat this.
     
  13. Neverhere

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    Thats my whole reason for not killing myself is someday i hope it gets better. I have a dream of living in america and i want to do that so much. I can create a whole new life for me and finally escape. My mum is still married to my abuser and whenever he comes around the house i have to hide in my room, music really loud. What gets me is he doesnt care :sad: :mad: i also have irrational fears about him coming back to get me. Anyway i could forget all about the abuse, maybe even consider making a friend. I guess thats why i hold on plus letting him win is worse than anything else. But i know too we can do this :biggrin:
     
  14. killorbee

    killorbee Active Member

    i have social anxiety. I can go out in public, and I have held down a job for 6 years now. It is very hard to get through everyday like this. I have a hard time conversating with people. I am quiet most of the time. I also have a hard time finding things in common with people except on the internet. I am always worried about what people are thinking of me. the best thing i can tell you is to get a hobby or job, and try to be the best as you can be. It will make you have more confidence and feel better about yourself in general. Like maybe try to learn to play the drums. Then maybe invite someone you know over and show off. It may sound stupid, but it helps. People like me need a ego boost because we feel so worthless.i Use to skip school everyday because i was afraid of being at school with the other kids when i was in school years back. My mom would drop me off. and sometimes i would walk to the back doors of school and just leave out the back as quickly as I could. I missed school all the time. I never graduated. I went to get my GED though years later. I have anxiety all the time. I get so nervous around people. sometimes it frustrates me so much that I get really mad. Ill go home and beat the shit out of my punching bag and just wish I was dead cause i hate the feeling. I went to counselors before. I just stop going to them cause i had a fear of even going to them. I hate being contained in a room with a person or persons and have to tell them my problems. I think I feel better when I just try to set goals as far as something goes like maybe set a goal to do 100 pushups. then when you do it,, you will feel better about yourself. I just want you to Know you are not alone. I fear all social situations but I just do the best I can. If it is that bad and i just dont want to be around people I won't. So stay strong and just try to be the best you can. later,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Jason
     
  15. Neverhere

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    Thanks, Jason :smile: I used to run out of school to so i can relate on that particular point. I know it's gonna get better cause it's going to be fine. I guess i think that because i want to make it fine. But it's a relief to speak to other people who suffer, just so i know im not alone. But i reiterate im not officially diagnosed but im sure its a good bet. Anyway thanks again to everyone :biggrin:
     
  16. Syd

    Syd Guest

    I have to force myself to go out amongst strangers, though I rarely feel like doing it these days. The worst part is undoubtedly the fact that I would love nothing more than to be friendly, talk, and laugh with everyone I meet..(and this is further fueled by the knowledge of what it feels like to love everyone, and be truly open, thanks to MDMA) but the reality is that I ignore them, avoid eye contact, turn up the volume on my headphones rather than listen to someone's conversation nearby, and my eyes (which always show my emotion) often hidden behind sunglasses. So I'm there, amongst the masses.. but I'm isolated.
     
  17. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    I think there would be a huge number of people that suffer from both depression and social anxiety, because lets face it..they would feed each other.

    I suffer from social anxiety in certain situations, mostly around woman, but its not severe enough to stop me from going out by myself, although I dont particularly like too. I can talk to guys no problem etc.

    Depression by its very nature breeds isolation, isolation breeds social anxiety.

    If you go to the http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/index.php forum, which im a member of, and read about some of the severe and extreme cases you soon realise what an absolutely awful condition it can be...People in there mid twenties or even older that have never had a job, or a girlfriend, have had like 1 or 2 friends maybe over 20 years!...It can be absolutely debilitating.
     
  18. _nu

    _nu Well-Known Member

    i have social anxiety, but i've developed my 1337 skill of small talk, so it's not hard for me to get from one place to another... i just cant really get close to anybody anymore, it seems... always avoiding people and pretending to talk on my cellphone. once i even said "What's that?!" and pointed behind them, and when they turned i ran away. they might think i'm crazy
     
  19. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    Oh great, thats gonna be me, except I'll have a job but be all alone....... :sad: :sad: :sad:
     
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  20. LetItGo

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    Thats at the extreme end of the scale. At least if your working you have some work colleagues.
     
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