Some life advice

Discussion in 'Positive Feelings and Motivational Messages' started by Lorax, Feb 5, 2014.

  1. Lorax

    Lorax Well-Known Member

    Not really 'active' here now, sorry if i'm in the wrong thread. I've been going through vigorous self-exploration lately. Honestly the alternative is obvious for me. Thought these words may offer slight hope/ comfort.

    ~ We all feel pain, that seems to have no reason/ escape. You're not alone/ worthless/ burdensome. You're human.

    ~ Your body works hard literally 24/7. If nothing else, respect it with sleep/ avoid intoxicants. Learn to love it, if only for the definitive mind/ body relationship.

    ~ You and only you deserve 100% of your love/ trust. Offer everyone else 99%

    ~ Turn that sympathy you feel for others in pain, toward your self. If you feel sad, tell your self 'it's ok to feel down' or 'you will be ok soon' or 'i love you, please feel better soon' it can be done to any emotion. The aim is to not feel guilty about having strong feelings, and eventually offer your self comfort.

    ~ Start over. You can start a new life right this moment. You might have the luxury to move away/ cut your old relationships. Odds are you can't right now, but you *can* cut bad relationships off, find new insight, look for a new job/ living space, or otherwise 'start fresh' is that what leads to suicidal thoughts at times? Wanting to erase mistakes/ go somewhere new/ feel 'reborn'? Try doing it in this life first. What could you loose, compared to your life? I've learned to do it daily. 'The man i was died long ago.. I'm a new person today' it's true in my case.

    ~ Learn how you personally think. These over-whelming emotions stem from certain thought-patterns usually. Calmly listen to your thoughts, and pay attention to what causes strong responses. You now know what you need to focus on healing. This is both useful in focused meditation, and as a constant state of mind.

    ~ Limit action *not* emotion. I know it's hard to allow your self to feel pain. We all want the pain to 'go away' the truth is, like any force, we can't just make it disappear. But we can change it. If you feel pain, question why exactly you feel this way, that sometimes calms things down (especially anger) make an effort to re-direct your thoughts. Offer your self sympathy. And let your self feel things, just don't act impulsively.

    ~ Love your self, and forgive your self. The only ways to learn why/ how are to know your self. You are either a constant source of support, or pain/ doubt. That vague sense of pain you get from reading this? It's your mind asking you to offer it love and support. Listen to it, you don't deserve to feel hurt, or to die. You deserve love/ peace/ comfort/ happiness. You will always have it, so long as you let your self feel it.

    These are words from a man with many scars/ attempts/ sleepless nights. I hope you can find something to find the peace in this life, that you should never have gone without.

    "The truth is out there" Ex files.

    ~ Lorax
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Thanks Lorax for the this post it is very helpful to me
  3. pisces1

    pisces1 Well-Known Member

    Thank you for sharing this.
  4. Aquarius123

    Aquarius123 Well-Known Member

    Thank you, Lorax, for sharing some of the wisdom you have found on life’s journey. Here is some of mine:

    Finding Peace Of Mind

    1. Do not interfere in other people’s business, unless asked:

    Most of us create our own problems by interfering too much in other people’s affairs. We do so to our detriment because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is better than somebody else’s and that our logic is a perfect one, and that those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticised and steered to the right direction, ours! This kind of thinking shows no respect for the other’s individuality and their intuition, through which the living God within each one of us tells us what is right or wrong, in any given situation. There is no way that someone else can reliably know what that is!

    God created each one of us to be unique and special. That is why no two human beings can think or act exactly the same way. Showing love and compassion to someone else’s suffering, whilst carefully minding our own business at the same time, does wonders for finding inner peace.

    2. Forgive:

    Love can only flourish in relationships where there is an equal measure of giving and taking, as well as for the willingness of those involved in them to forgive. Forgiveness is the most powerful tool for finding peace of mind. There is no point in developing ill feelings for and nurturing grievances against those who insult or harm us. These things may result in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers and also high blood pressure.

    Once an insult or injury has been done, unless we forgive the perpetrator, nourishing grievances may go on until we finally do so, because our inner self is likely to remind us that an unresolved issue is waiting to be attended to. It is more constructive by far not to waste our precious time on such trifles, but to learn something from every experience, then to forgive, as that frees us to move on to different ones.

    3. Do not crave recognition:

    The selfishness that is inherent in the character make-up of every human soul is a natural part of the Divine gift of the survival instinct. The older and more experienced the soul becomes, i.e. the more times it has travelled round the zodiac and taken part in the whole gamut of human experiences that are the essential ingredient of our earthly education, the more this selfishness is shed. Until the soul’s enthusiasm is increasingly fired by altruistic and higher motifs for the good of all humankind, instead for the glorification of the self, takes many lifetimes. So, don’t be disappointed when many still react in overly selfish ways.

    Don’t be too harsh on anyone, but give thanks and praise to God and the Angels that you have left behind that particular educational phase. Refuse to sit in judgement over anyone, for the simple reason that you know how unwise this is. Your most important lesson now is the practice of showing love and tolerance in all your daily encounters. Attend to it diligently and bear in mind that every person we meet can teach us something. This is particularly true for those who behave unpleasantly towards us. Because we all have everything within, we all have to experience every single one of the expressions of our lower earthly nature, before the ascent into developing the higher and highest aspects of our nature can begin. The blatant selfishness, greed, jealousy and cruelty that some are displaying show those who are already climbing the spiritual mountain how they no longer want to be.

    Don’t kill yourself by striving for any kind of recognition; when you have worked hard enough and therefore deserve it, it will come on its own. Patiently, willingly and lovingly do what you have to do to the best of your ability, with honesty and integrity, then hand your work over to God and the Angels and let them do the rest.

    4. Forget about being jealous of other people’s achievements:

    Nothing disturbs our peace of mind as much as jealousy, when in truth there is never any need for it. Any success that crowns someone’s efforts on the Earth plane has to be worked for very hard at some stage. No success ever falls into anyone’s lap, although on the surface of earthly life this may often appear to be the case, there is no such thing spiritually. Accomplishments have to earned, if this did not happen during someone’s present lifetime, then it is due to the credits its soul has brought with it into this lifetime in the spiritual ledger that accompanies each one of us during the whole course of our evolution. Peace of mind comes through knowing and accepting that all things on our present level of life can only happen for karmic reasons. So, make your peace with the Universe and say: ‘Thy will be done, not mine! Success will come to me, but in Thy time, not mine!’

    From the spiritual point of view – the most important one of all – the outcome of every effort we make depends not only on the karmic aspect of what we have brought with us in our spiritual ledger into present lifetime from previous ones, on the credit as well as the debit side. Our inner motivations are of equal importance. What are we hoping to achieve? Are we hoping for material gains and that our enterprise turns into a money-spinning one?

    Or are we looking towards our inner guidance to be shown how we can do our share of being about the Father’s business by altruistically serving life on the Earth plane and the One who created it? For example, the suffering of humankind can be alleviated by releasing ever more of us from the dungeon of ignorance and false beliefs, to get us all that bit nearer to the end to the suffering that these things have created for us and our world? As long as we pay attention to what rises from within by doing the things we naturally feel drawn to, we are sure to find what is rightfully ours.

    5. Don’t expect the world to change to accommodate you. Instead, change your character so you fit better into our world.

    If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Peace of mind comes through changing ourselves and finding a different perception of our world and our place in it. Through learning to love and accept our world the way it is, an environment we previously perceived to be unfriendly and hostile, can mysteriously change and become more congenial and harmonious.

    6. Change the things you can and accept and endure with patience the ones you cannot:

    In this way a disadvantage can be turned into an advantage. Every day we all have to tackle inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control such things or change them, we need to cheerfully and patiently endure them. Proving to ourselves and our world that this is possible helps us to grow in patience, inner strength and willpower, as well as wisdom and understanding.

    7. Know and accept your limitations:

    Many take on more responsibilities than they are capable of carrying out. It is essential to know our limitations and refuse to take on additional loads that create nothing but stress for us.

    8. Meditate regularly:

    Peace of mind can only be gained through reducing our engagements in the material world and spending more time in our inner world. Prayers, meditations, quiet reflections and inner dialogues with our Highest Self, the living God within, soothe and calm the mind. Let Him/Her be your teacher and guide. This is the only place in the whole wide world where truth can be found and where you can safely put all the questions you have always wanted to ask and to which no-one ever seemed to know the right and full answers.

    Learn to pay attention to the responses that rise from the very core of your own being at all times. Be patient because this hardly ever happens straight away. Stay as peaceful as you can through resting safely in the knowledge that the answers you are seeking will come. I am one of those who do this by writing down the impressions and ideas that come forth. You might like to try it and maybe amaze yourself at all the things you did not know you knew or rather about the knowledge that rises this way into your consciousness from within the core of your own being.

    Meditation calms the mind and diminishes the amount of thoughts that makes it restless. The less cluttered our minds are with everyday thoughts and inner chatter, the greater peace of mind can be achieved. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, your mind is likely to be more peaceful and not as easily disturbed for the rest of that day. Even if you can only spare five or ten minutes each day, benefits can be reaped; it is helpful to gradually increase these periods. Meditation does not interfere with our daily work. On the contrary, it increases our efficiency and we can produce better results in less time.

    9. Find the right food for your earthly mind:

    It would be all too simplistic to say that an empty mind is the devil’s workshop and that all evil actions start in vacant minds. The earthly mind was given to us for good purpose and we are responsible for what we allow our minds to be filled with. Concentrate on that which is positive and worthwhile. Take up an interesting hobby and do things that hold your attention.

    Regularly take stock of your life and decide what you truly value and what is worth more to you: money or peace of mind. Some work and hobbies, for example that of the social or spiritual kind may not always earn you more money, but it will bring you a sense of fulfilment and achievement.

    10. Stop procrastinating and never regret anything, but gratefully learn something from every experience that comes your way, so that through it you may grow more heaven-tall.

    Too much time is wasted by endlessly wondering: ‘Should I or should I not?’ Days, weeks, months and years may elapse fruitlessly through this kind of futile mental debating. Learn to go with the flow of your life and respond to the promptings you receive from the Universe and your inner teacher and guide. Accept that the future is not ours to see and that what will be, will be. Forget about planning everything and use affirmations like: ‘That which is for my highest good and my greatest joy is now drawn to me, in perfect ways!’ Then step back to see what the Universe may wish to bring you. Follow Its guidance and seize the opportunities when they come your way. One step at a time, go forwards and give of your best, resting safely in the knowledge that the Universal laws will ensure that only the best can return to you.

    Whenever you try something new, it does not really matter whether you succeed or fail. So long as you learn something and make another attempt, if need be many times over, you will succeed in the end. Sitting back and worrying will get you nowhere, but learning from your mistakes and not unnecessarily brooding on the past does. Instead of spending time on regrets and crying over spilt milk, show your willingness to the Universe to cheerfully and courageously move on to new experiences.

    At all times, rest safely in the knowledge that your Highest Self is guiding and protecting you. If you but ask, it will show you how your consciousness can expand and your wisdom and understanding of life grow through everything that comes your way.

    From ‘Astrology As A Lifehelp In Relationship Healing’

    With love and light,

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  5. Twocky61

    Twocky61 Banned Member

    Awesome Lorax - very thought provoking especially where you say " You and only you deserve 100% of your love/ trust. Offer everyone else 99%"
    Trouble is it is so easy to give your partner who you love 100%
  6. Twocky61

    Twocky61 Banned Member

    Thanks for yours to Aquarius - as awesome as Lorax's
    to you both
  7. Aquarius123

    Aquarius123 Well-Known Member

    Thank you and extra big healing hugs to you - Aquarius :hug: