some notes i have made before I kill myself

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    fuggles Banned Member

    some things which helped me understand my problems

    maybe they can help someone else



    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love-shyness
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_isolation
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clinical_depression
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socially_inept
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emptiness
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loneliness
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_abuse
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loner
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotomania
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive_love
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abuse
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bipolar_I_Disorder
    http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Melancholic&redirect=no
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shyness
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_personality_disorder
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_depressive_episode
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_disorder
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_distortion
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Melancholia
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atypical_depression


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophrenia

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_alienation
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_intimacy




    http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm
    http://eqi.org/invalid.htm
    http://eqi.org/valid.htm
    http://eqi.org/listen.htm
    http://eqi.org/listen3.htm
    http://eqi.org/elit.htm
    http://eqi.org/respect.htm
    http://eqi.org/depress1.htm
    http://eqi.org/whyhard.htm
    http://eqi.org/friends.htm
    http://eqi.org/hugs.htm
    http://eqi.org/listen4.htm
    http://eqi.org/eam1.htm
    http://eqi.org/cutting1.htm
    http://eqi.org/und1.htm very good
    http://www.eqi.org/oct2002.htm very good
    http://eqi.org/summary.htm excellent
    http://eqi.org/uen1.htm very good
    http://eqi.org/signs.htm
    http://eqi.org/educ3.htm - very good

    http://eqi.org/emotions.htm
    http://eqi.org/ginott.htm
    http://eqi.org/ei_ed43.htm

    http://eqi.org/davidc2.htm
    http://eqi.org/davidc1.htm
    http://eqi.org/caruso.htm

    http://eqi.org/shevaun3.htm


    taken off additional logs::

    http://eqi.org/invalid2.htm
    http://eqi.org/moti.htm
    http://eqi.org/dark1.htm
    http://eqi.org/depress2.htm
    http://eqi.org/romance.htm
    http://eqi.org/forgive.htm

    http://eqi.org/ts7.htm

    good links, :: somehow i found them

    http://eqi.org/dsfs.htm
    http://eqi.org/eam1.htm
    http://eqi.org/feelings.htm


    http://eqi.org/sarahw.htm
    http://eqi.org/gt.htm
    http://eqi.org/legal.htm
    http://eqi.org/abuse3.htm
    http://eqi.org/cry1.htm

    http://eqi.org/resp.htm

    http://eqi.org/puni2.htm

    http://eqi.org/chris.htm

    http://www.eqi.org/psychstud.htm

    list of negative emotions, rate from 1- 10 http://eqi.org/cnfs.htm
    list of positive emotions, rate from 1 - 10, http://eqi.org/needs.htm

    i think that's an accurate objective. they are in control of their emotions and their thoughts, not me. i'm not supposed to solve their problems. just to accept them, listen to them, allow them to express their thoughts freely so that they can see them, react to them, and change them.


    Thought: Oh, my God! Oh, no! This is terrible. My brand new car! This will cost a fortune! I don't have time for this now. I can't afford to get this fixed. I don't know if this is going to be covered. I am afraid I let my insurance run out.
    Values: The appearance of the car, the cost of fixing it, the principle of taking responsibility for denting someone else's car.
    Beliefs: It is wrong for someone to dent a car and drive off. People should leave notes on cars when they dent them. People should be more careful. Cars shouldn't have dents in them.


    http://eqi.org/aware.htm



    ...if your a dumbass and you dont like teens and you look down on
    people who are depressed and you expect everyone to be super happy,
    dont get into a fucking field where you deal with depressed anxious
    crazy people.


    Managing Feelings

    Exercise 1

    Have people list some of the negative feelings which they regularly experience. Then have them complete the following sentence:

    When I am feeling _______ I can ________

    For children, it might help to make the analogy of a rainy day. Tell them to think of things they can do on a rainy day by saying to themselves:

    When it is rainy, I can _________.

    Exercise 2

    Go through another list of negative feelings (either provided by you or the participants) and use the following general model.

    When I feel ______ I need more _____.

    For example,

    When I am feeling uninspired, I need more inspiration.

    When I am feeling resentful, I need more appreciation (towards that which you resent)

    When I am feeling victimized, I need to take more responsibility.

    When I am feeling out of powerless and out of control, I need to feel more powerful and in control.

    When I am feeling impatient, I need to feel more patient.

    Exercise 3

    Think of a time when you were upset. Try to put yourself back into the moment and re-live it. Then ask yourself,

    "How do I feel?" and list your feelings.

    Next ask:

    "What would help me feel better-- that I can control?"

    These are the HDIF and WWHMFB questions, which can also be used to help someone else by changing them to "How do you feel" - HDYF and "What would help you feel better?" WWHYFB?
     
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