Something stupid I did

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by InnerStrength, Dec 20, 2009.

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  1. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    I get depressed and suicidal very easily. There is this one situation that continues to dog me. One night when I was a little drunk (I think I was anyway), I took a topless picture of myself and posted it on a dating site. Someone at work got a hold of it and put it on another one, putting the preferences for men. It has since gotten around. This is very embarressing and probably sounds really stupid, but I don't know what to do. This makes me really suicidal and the only alternative I can think of is to quit my job Any suggestions?
     
  2. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    Is possible to laugh it off, turn into joke, blame it on someone else, maybe?
    I think quitting your job is a bit extreme.
    I made a mistake like that once and quit my job.
    I regret it till this day.
     
  3. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    Hey thanks for the reply. Yeah I did blame on someone else, I mean I'm pretty sure I know who started it so I said they were the ones that put it on that site, to mess with me. Anyway, I know this is a really stupid situation I'm just not sure how to do come out of this.
     
  4. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    You got it right, it IS a stupid situation.
    And the worst part - it's very unpleasant one too.
    I guess, no need to remind you that.
    I think, that outcome depends on what kind of person you are, how you carry yourself at work, what your coworkers actually think about you.
    What I am trying to say is that you, probably, know better what to do than anybody else here.
    Sometimes ignoring the incident works better than anything else.
     
  5. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    It is a stupid situation, I guess that makes me stupid as well. I really wish I could just move away.
     
  6. electron

    electron Member

    Embarassing? yes. Enough to quit? no. Suicidal? goodness I hope not!

    This is one of those times to really believe "I'm not perfect, stuff happens". It's typical office antics you can't escape from and which can really only be diffused by turning it into a joke.
     
  7. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    Frankly, I think what you did was a just a harmless joke, maybe not the best one but still a joke. What that guy did to you could come only from a stupid person.
     
  8. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    Do you think it will ever go away? I'm guessing not, but...
     
  9. electron

    electron Member

    100% yes.

    Edit: 100% yes with a guarantee that Christmas will give it a few days to blow over whatever is left. Should that fail, "What I did on New Years" conversations will make your topless pic out of date.
     
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  10. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    People found out about the pic months ago. It still is brought up on occasion. I mean, don't really hear much about it anymore I just don't want it to be a subject that is brought up for however long I work there.
     
  11. jjjoooggg2

    jjjoooggg2 Well-Known Member

    Can you contact the site to pull down that profile?
     
  12. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    Probably not. If I didn't make it. Oh well.
     
  13. jjjoooggg2

    jjjoooggg2 Well-Known Member

    I'd at least try now, before you forget the site name. And you may regret not trying in a couple years.. I'm sure that they see this alot. And would gladly take that down.
     
  14. WildCherry

    WildCherry Staff Member ADMIN

    Worth giving it a try, contacting them and seeing if they can pull those pics down.

    And the situation doesn't make YOU stupid. I've done some pretty bizarre things when I've had too much alcohol. (Don't EVER play Truth or Dare drunk, LOL)!!
     
  15. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    Read the site's policy. They should have something there against the site abuse.
     
  16. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    I gave up alcohol because I kept doing stupid stupid things. :dry: Since I gave it up I have not done anything that I could regret. I think you should consider doing the same to prevent things such as this.
    Am really sorry about what happened with the pic :( You can move on from it even if others won't. Easier said than done, but you need to learn to ignore what other people think/say. What happened will make you stronger. Feel free to drop me a pm anytime :) Take care. :hug:
     
  17. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    Exactly. Obviously that people do not care much about your feelings so, you should stop caring about what they think or say.
     
  18. bubblin girl

    bubblin girl Well-Known Member

    dont quit your job cos of that...if somebody ask about it...just laugh & say i took this pic cos i love my body & im so hot...the other gender are so on me...and move on...people will forget about that when they find something else to talk about it...
     
  19. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    I know a few people have that pic on their cell phone, so it would just pop right back up. I suppose I could try.

    Anyway, bubblingirl. Yeah, I wish it was that easy. I think my co-workers will always remember it.
     
  20. orangejulius

    orangejulius Well-Known Member

    I really feel for you. A couple months may seem like a long time, but it will blow over soon. If people are keeping the picture despite your letting them know that you are bothered by it, they are not your friend. I wouldn't talk to them anymore except in a business sense.

    That guy sounds like a real a-hole. Contact the site and report it. If no response happens, write emails and make phone calls.

    Back in school, I knew a girl that this happened to. It went away after a few months. It will go away, it just takes time.
     
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