I am normally a very careful writer, but forgive me poor grammar--I'm just not in the mood and I've had a few drinks. I think I've earned it. My wife isn't really the problem. She's a proxy for the real problem--my in-laws, who I hate as much as I can imagine hating anything, and I have a strong imagination. I know how skewed things get when feelings and stories are concerned, so let me try to relate just facts. I want opinions on this because, let's be honest here, I have zero friends in the world, and the tiny shitty family I have is 700 miles away and cannot be bothered to visit me. (I've visited them twice this year, but whose counting?) Anyway... My wife has a large family. I hate every facet of it, but let me focus on just one for now. Actually it involves two but I'll do my best to meld it into one. One of my sister/brothers-in-law have a house where they enjoy entertaining the others. Sounds fine, right? Well where I diverge from accepted opinion is in the fact that they show horror films (think: Halloween, Friday the 13th) to children of all ages, and "Mature 17+" games like "Call of Duty: Black Ops", also to children of all ages. Now, no one else in my wife's family bats an eye at this. Me, I'm not conservative at all but where it concerns children, I am extremely defensive, or perhaps protective is a better word. I think that psychologists have it right when they say that kids who are exposed to violence lose the full ability to empathize and appreciate the suffering of others. I think that playing games where you go around blowing others' heads off may desensitize a child to the suffering of others. But hey, who am I but a depressed asshole? I'll skip a whole huge episode involving my wife and I having a shouting match after she and my son made a visit to the house of these freaks. What I want opinions on is this: My wife claims that when she and my son visit their house (in my absence), the onus is on me to see if adult entertainment is being shown. (I'm characterizing as "adult entertainment" things like, oh call me crazy, Black Ops-type games.) If the psycho 5-year-old kids who are allowed to play those games aren't there, then hey, I should relax and shut up. My opinion--not that anyone asked--is that this sort of thing shouldn't be going on in the first place. I would truly and deeply appreciate it if my wife would simply agree with me that it shouldn't, and assure me that she wouldn't expose our son to it. But she won't do that. I think the reason she won't is that doing so would be admitting that someone in her family was wrong, which "cannot happen". Let me rephrase, please. My wife did not tell me that I should not worry about our son being exposed to that crap because she wouldn't allow that to happen. She did not say that there was anything wrong with it. No, all she said was that I need to inquire about who is visiting to find out if my son might be exposed to those things. And I think that's bullshit. Am I just nuts?