Sugar Daddies?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by KittyGirl, Jun 23, 2010.


What do you think of 'Sugar Daddy'/'Sugar Mama's' ?

  1. No WAY!! I think it's disgusting that people use others purely for money.

    6 vote(s)
  2. It's a fair trade, right? Sex=Money

    6 vote(s)
  3. ...I wish I had one, honestly... haha... just... without the sex part...

    6 vote(s)
  4. other

    5 vote(s)
  1. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    (or Mama's)
    Ever had one? Ever thought of attempting to get one?
    What are your thoughts on this type of relationship?


    Personally; I've never traded stuff for sex, no.
    Companionship-- kind of.
    In highschool one of my guy friends was very lonely. I never had money to go out and do things, since all of the money I made went towards paying rent-- so he would pay for me to go out and do things with him/and our friends. He bought me food and clothes and drove me places when I needed a ride.
    I think he was just very lonely and would've done pretty much anything to have some sort of close contact with someone.

    He's doing pretty well now from what I understand! He's had several girlfriends since starting University-- so good for him to push through his shyness!
    Mom always used to tease me, calling him my sugar daddy... I always just called him one of my best friends. I hope that he saw me as a good friend, too... just... an expensive one. XD
    I never *asked* for things, and never accepted things that I didn't really need. He was always the one to suggest purchasing stuff, since I've always liked to buy stuff with the money that I've earned myself.
  2. cloud9

    cloud9 Well-Known Member

    Wow, didn't know these relationships existed loll.
  3. Prinnctopher's Belt

    Prinnctopher's Belt Antiquities Friend SF Supporter

    I have no objections to loving somebody who loves me back with diamonds and cadillacs and gold and houses and furs and international adventures and all the assets in the world. That's not a "sugar daddy," that's what all men want to be able to do for their love bunnies.
  4. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    Yeah-- There are 'dating websites' dedicated to finding a sugar daddy. It's kind of horrible... a friend of mine; her roommate has 5 or 6 'boyfriends' that she found on that particular site.

    Normally I think a person paired up with a sugar daddy would also be considered a 'personal prostitute'/an escort possibly?
    I do know loads of people who are close friends with someone who has loads of money and likes to spread the wealth-- and I think a relationship like that could also be classified the same to an extent.

    As Prinn said though--- there are also people in loving relationships who love back with money and material things because they *can*; and that's not a sugar daddy... some people may see it that was though- if one side of the pair is only in it for the sex/money.
  5. Prinnctopher's Belt

    Prinnctopher's Belt Antiquities Friend SF Supporter

    Even if it is just for companionship and/or sex, in exchange for everything, I still have no objections to it.

    I always wondered where the logic was in volunteering to be a cum receptacle, and a temporary bed mate, to someone who offers you nothing (but a wet ass and a bastard), while simultaneously being opposed to someone being a companion to a person that gives them everything. If people are going to lay with someone or be someone's companion, it's smart to be getting something out of it!
  6. Viro

    Viro Well-Known Member

    Nothing morally wrong with it, if you really do need the cash.
  7. Tobes

    Tobes Well-Known Member

    I'm against the idea of women (or men) prostituting themselves for jewelery and cars and clothing, but if they can sleep at night doing what they are doing, or if the 2 love each other, who am I to judge.
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  8. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    I couldn't do it, it seems morally wrong to me. :unsure:
  9. Datura

    Datura Well-Known Member

    It's for women with no standards, and desperate/lonely men. Vice versa may be true.
  10. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    A lot of these guys know what they're getting themselves in to so there's no need to feel bad or guilty. I had one and he knew what it was all about from the get go.
  11. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    If that's the way that some people want to live their life then that's their business. Personally I've never had such a relationship and never will. I would never sleep with somebody that I didn't love and I would never take constant gifts from someone, no matter how small, just for being myself. I feel guilty enough accepting gifts on birthdays and Christmas, let alone for no real reason at all (in the case of it being done for companionship like in your example).
  12. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    Sugar Daddies are old rich men who want to be with young, attractive women. They're both willing participants so I don't feel sorry for either of them.
  13. kyle88

    kyle88 Well-Known Member

    Guys don't buy things for girls just to be friends or be nice, and I mean that in the sense of a "sugar daddy" as you put it... obviously i buy friends of mine who are girls things once in a while, but i mean if the guy is constantly buying you things so you hang out with him etc.. its because he likes you and is insecure and doesn't know how to get a girl, so he buys her things... (I made the mistake with one girl once, and i realized what i was doing after... wont ever happen again).

    Also, im 100% sure girls who accept these guy friends know exactly what is going on, and telling yourself "we're just friends" is a way for you to sleep better at night and guilt free... at the end of the day, you're really just leading the guy on by hanging out with him when he buys you things.

    To the OP: The guy wasn't "lonely", he was depressed about not having a GF, and he was basically trying to make you his GF, even if he told you that you "we're just friends", he clearly had no confidence and used money as a way to hang out with you...

    Friends can always hang out places where you don't have to spend money, watch movies at each others house, go sight seeing, or have parties, or whatever... and from reading your post, i don't think you really hung out with him like that unless he was buying things... and I think you KNOW this but are just like trying to find and excuse for yourself to justify what happened.
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  14. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    Well, that's nice.

    So, although I'd had a boyfriend for 3 years- everyone knew it- and I talked about him constantly; it was all about me leading him on.
    I don't sleep at night, but it's a combination of several health problems that prevents me from sleeping. I feel zero guilt for "leading him on" because I am quite sure that was not my intention.

    See it whatever way you want.
  15. kyle88

    kyle88 Well-Known Member

    Will do... and by me saying "whatever makes you sleep at night", i didn't mean literally, I meant it as, "whatever you tell yourself to make yourself feel no guilt"...

  16. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    I really don't agree with you there kyle88. Some people don't have many friends or may just really like hanging out with a certain friend and want to spend more time with them, in a completely platonic way. I've had two old friends of mine once pay my cinema fee for me when I had no money, simply because they really wanted me to come and hang out with them, and they were both boys. Not because they wanted me to get with them, or anything other than the fact that they enjoyed my company. Men and women CAN be just friends, and some people just DO want just companionship from someone. Maybe as a guy you don't see it the way us girls do, and maybe because of that you have limited experience with having friends of the opposite sex buying you a lot of things for your companionship, but your views do not apply to every guy who buys girls lots of gifts/pays for outings. Some, yes. Most, maybe. But not all.
  17. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    lol- I realize that.

    I originally asked this question because I was curious as to how 'accepted' these types of relationships really are. Friends are constantly joking about 'getting themselves a sugar daddy' and a friend of a friend has several of them-- but no one seems to see it as a bad thing.

    That is what I was wondering about and why I started this thread.

    I really would rather close it completely if people are getting the image of me as the type of person to use a guy for his money.
    I will admit that I am very dense when it comes to a person's 'romantic feelings' towards me. I never thought as it was happening - that I was using him. I still don't think that was it.

    anyways, I'm not going to continue explaining myself. I'm out.
  18. kyle88

    kyle88 Well-Known Member

    Like I said, if it's once in a while, then I don't see anything wrong with it, I have friends who are girls, and I call them to the movies and have bought their ticket too if they were broke etc...

    However if it's a constant thing where the guy is constantly buying her things, and the only reason the she is hanging out with him is because of it, then yes... especially if she wouldn't consider hanging out with the guy otherwise... oh and the cherry on top, is if she refers to him as a "sugar daddy" in her head or with others... yah i do kinda see something morally wrong with that.

    You're basically selling you "companionship" for money... no different than a prostitute in my opinion... so if you feel prosititution is ok... then yah, i guess you wouldn't see anything morally wrong with the idea of a sugar daddy.

    BTW, yes, a guy doesn't just be nice to a girl and buy her things just to be a friend... especially if he doesn't do that with other girls who are his friend either... or heck other friends who are guys... why couldn't he get companionship from his guy friends? like i said, whatever way you try to justify it, 99.999999999999% of guys who are sugar daddys, desire some type of relationship with the girl... even if the girl has a bf, it's not impossible for a guy to like a girl who has a bf... you see it in movies all the time, except the guy usually ends up with her lol
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  19. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    Well, that was not how I described our relationship at all.
  20. kyle88

    kyle88 Well-Known Member

    Whatever makes you :sleep: at night :)