I'm calling it bullying because really this is no different then children ganging up on one child and just mercilessly teasing them and talking crap about them behind their back.
At work there are 3 people who spread rumors about me. I know about these rumors. I've heard people tell me what they are doing. It's baseless stuff about me, stuff that could make my reputation as a nurse meaningless because no one trusts me. Because of this, now when I say something I see the hesiatation in other people's eyes. 'Should we trust her? She has done all these things wrong (none of which is true, or at least wasn't my fault, how can I be blamed for an order that was given on my day off, or when it wasn't my shift?).'
But now I've been told those that I trust are supposedly spreading rumors about me. I don't know who to trust anymore. Do I trust these new whispers that my BOSS is telling me that the people I trust with my life really are talking crap about me? Even if it's wrong that means my BOSS is twisting stuff.
Mainly what I'm asking here is. How do I cope? I've just gotten to the point where I do my job and that's all. I smile and robotically go through the motions around my co-workers. I've closed off talking about my personal life with them. I can't trust any of them with it, if I say something that will get spread...
I can't get a new job, I've looked. The market is tough right now for nurses. Moving to a new floor won't do any good. Cuz the rumors are all over the place. I can't go to my boss because she may be spreading rumors too. I just don't know! I mean I don't have concrete proof of this, but I do have 2 people that I know I can trust and they tell me everything they hear. And that's how I know it's still going on. It turns my stomach to smile at these bullies everyday and talk to them.
I just don't know how to cope with all of these rumors that won't stop! Is this what it's really like in the job field? Because if so I can try for disability and stay at home. I can't stand this anymore!
At work there are 3 people who spread rumors about me. I know about these rumors. I've heard people tell me what they are doing. It's baseless stuff about me, stuff that could make my reputation as a nurse meaningless because no one trusts me. Because of this, now when I say something I see the hesiatation in other people's eyes. 'Should we trust her? She has done all these things wrong (none of which is true, or at least wasn't my fault, how can I be blamed for an order that was given on my day off, or when it wasn't my shift?).'
But now I've been told those that I trust are supposedly spreading rumors about me. I don't know who to trust anymore. Do I trust these new whispers that my BOSS is telling me that the people I trust with my life really are talking crap about me? Even if it's wrong that means my BOSS is twisting stuff.
Mainly what I'm asking here is. How do I cope? I've just gotten to the point where I do my job and that's all. I smile and robotically go through the motions around my co-workers. I've closed off talking about my personal life with them. I can't trust any of them with it, if I say something that will get spread...
I can't get a new job, I've looked. The market is tough right now for nurses. Moving to a new floor won't do any good. Cuz the rumors are all over the place. I can't go to my boss because she may be spreading rumors too. I just don't know! I mean I don't have concrete proof of this, but I do have 2 people that I know I can trust and they tell me everything they hear. And that's how I know it's still going on. It turns my stomach to smile at these bullies everyday and talk to them.
I just don't know how to cope with all of these rumors that won't stop! Is this what it's really like in the job field? Because if so I can try for disability and stay at home. I can't stand this anymore!