My Girlfriend of seven months is going through a tough time, she has had mental health problems and suicidal moods all her life and presently things are very tough, she has two kids who she home-teaches, they are both autistic and quite wild, the father was abusive and has not been around for years. She had a rough time with her abusive past. She is being checked on by social services to try and get the kids into school, this is very disrtessing as they poke around the house, interogate her, privacy is really important to her and she finds it really distressing. They say that she does not do enough to socialize them, but she takes them to all the home teaching groups, and they cant cope cause of autism, theres not enough help for them. As a result of things being so hard she often has suicidal times. Because she is so solitary and asperger-ish she does not have many close friends and i often worry its just me and her mother she really depends on. That is hard, not having other people who know her to turn to for help. Also, when she is down and stressed, she is often grumpy and snappy and annoys me and starts fights. I often feel drained from talking to her on the phone in those times (I live with my parents when I'm not with her, we dont live together as we havent sorted out benefits). I feel like angry from how snappy she is, then i argue back, and she can't cope as she is weak and tired and having a hard time, and then i feel like shit for fighting and making things worse for her. The good thing to do would be to let her be snappy and grumpy and just not let it effect me at those times, but its hard. She has PTSD and i often worry her abusive relationships have made her want to be agressive to me. She always seems to have lots of love for me when shes happy and then have no love when shes down, though she still wants me around to talk to at those times, and it makes me feel uneasy when she is loving and happy. anyway thanks for reading.