Support forum for parents only

[mdancey]

Anyone know of one? I've been searching and searching on the internet and so far haven't come up with a support forum for parents of suicidal teens. I don't want one with parents of kids that have committed suicide but have attempted. I may be looking for a needle in a haystack.

Thanks
Mary

 

[Christianv2]

That would be a good idea, I dont know of one, I thinks its pretty responsible of you to look into getting as much information as possible, when other parents would just ignore the situation which just makes it worse. I wish you the best.

 

[mdancey]

I can't imagine parents doing that. Ignoring it all? Blows me away.


:smile: My daughter, K, will probably wish in the up coming weeks and months that we would do just that. I don't think she begins to know, just yet, the meaning of 'pain in the ass'. :smile:

We'll have to find someway of being in her face without being in her face.

Hugs
Mary

 

[ItThing]

I believe there's a user named KittyD or something like that who once asked a similar question. There's a member list in the menu thrid from left.

 

[FoundAndLost1]

I had a look myself...and couldn't find anything as specific as that. You'd THINK there would be something definitively PRO-active out there!! And I can see from your POV that being with parents who've already gone through it are trying to cope with past tense (not that THEY don't need support!!)

Seriously - why not start your own within your community? I suspect that putting notices up in various places might draw attention - though it would be small to begin with. Doctor's offices, hospitals, churches, community centers, public bulletin boards...(just brainstorming...)

Your determination and reaching out to different resources is SO wonderful - and your "Pain in the ass" strategy is ONLY good!! I wish I could be of more help...

BTW - I don't know where you live, but "KittyD" is in Canada (so am I), so I don't know what info they might provide (though certainly they're going through something very similar...)

 

[Christianv2]

I can't imagine parents doing that. Ignoring it all? Blows me away.


:smile: My daughter, K, will probably wish in the up coming weeks and months that we would do just that. I don't think she begins to know, just yet, the meaning of 'pain in the ass'. :smile:

We'll have to find someway of being in her face without being in her face.

Hugs
Mary

Trust me, your in the minority. Many parents ignore the problem, dont talk to anyone about it, pretend it didnt happen, and just tell the child to "stop being selfish, or stop being sad put a smile on" or whatever and thats it.

 

[kittyD]

Wow, being referenced to made my day, but for such a sad reason brought tears to my eyes.
mdancey, I thought the same kind of thing here online but some of the most insightful things have come from other teens who joined in, helping me to understand some of the things that may be going on with my daughter. So maybe here where all can offer help in many ways is better for the start.
I don't want anyone to be offended, and this is just a thought, but I'd worry that an all parent group may turn into a pity party or worse, a kind of competition of whose child put their parents thru the worst situations. Again, just a thought that popped into my head, nothing to start any controversy.
kD

 

[gentlelady]

The important thing to realize is that seeking support to help you deal with a suicidal child is important. The questions are still there whether it is a successful attempt or not. We can learn from each other if we only listen.

 

[SmilePretty]

my parents ignored the problem lol look where it got me. i dont think any kid wants their parents to step in and do something but in all honesty in retrospect i wish they had.

 

[mdancey]

I think you're wrong honey, I think all kids want their parents to step in, are relying on it and it makes me very sad to think of kids, like you, whose parents chose to do nothing. Us jumping up and doing all we can to help K learn better coping skills will, hopefully, change the current course of her life, if it doesn't it won't be because we didn't try.

Peace
Mary

 

[kittyD]

right mdancey.:smile:
And also, we hear so much from other teens, as well as adults, here that they wish their parents had stepped in.

 

[SmilePretty]

I think you're wrong honey, I think all kids want their parents to step in, are relying on it and it makes me very sad to think of kids, like you, whose parents chose to do nothing. Us jumping up and doing all we can to help K learn better coping skills will, hopefully, change the current course of her life, if it doesn't it won't be because we didn't try.

Peace
Mary

i may be wrong...but i dont fully agree with kids wanting their parents to find out. i was so ashamed of myself. i still am i dont want them to find out now that i am in a safer mindset. but if they had it would have made things easier. :hug:

thats just my opinion. i am only 16 so i dont know if i am right lol.

 

[mdancey]

Smile Pretty,

I'm confused. First you said that they ignored it and now you say that you wouldn't want them to find out.

The one thing you should never be is ashamed, I don't know your story, what you've done that your parents ignored or what you're ashamed of......but I do know that the one thing that I don't want K to ever be is ashamed of what she did. It will now be part of who she is, to be ashamed of cutting and now of attempted suicide is not how I want her to live her life. I will be a part of her as her curly hair is, it's up to her to either embrace it and learn to live with it or fight it.......as she often does with her hair. Interestingly enough since her attempt she's decided to work with her curly hair instead of spending so much time straightening it. Gosh I love that kid.

I hope you find a way to not be ashamed.

Peace
Mary