support or sacrifice?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Cariad_Bach, Oct 14, 2013.

  1. Cariad_Bach

    Cariad_Bach Staff Alumni

    I know he loves me. I believe that. He loves easily and I am needy.

    But just how much can he take? Just how much should he put up with?

    Just how much can I subject him to? How much of my crazy can I show him? How many tears can he mop up?

    ... Before its too much.. Before my struggle with mental health takes its toll on him...

    Why would someone want to stay with a girl who can't stop crying? Who is never the happy, fun person he first knew? Who is sinking deeper and deeper and deeper?
     
  2. Freya

    Freya Loves SF Staff Member ADMIN

    Unfortunately that isn't really your decision - it is his. If he cannot cope and he walks away - that is his decision and his right. If he stays because he loves you - that is his decision and his right also.

    You do not have to sink. You are strong enough to swim. You might not believe that - but I know it is true. You need to keep kicking and you will stay afloat. It is exhausting and hard and not as easy as sinking I am aware, but it is less effort as time passes and you get muscle memory and increased strength from the effort. You do not have to sink.