I was physically ill from a text I received from a 'good' friend today. Immediately, I listed all of her shortcomings and why I have to distance myself from her. Later I read a statement from the Dalai Lama which reminded me that I should spend my time seeing what I contributed and changing that. With few exceptions, when there is difficulty interacting with anyone, both parties contribute to the 'rupture'. How quick I am to see the weaknesses of others. I realized, I better turn that mirror around and see what I did...I am ashamed, but I will be better for admitting it, and when I feel a little stronger, I will take responsibility for my contributions...growing pains hurt!