Tell me what to do!

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by Ljt, Oct 20, 2014.

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  1. Ljt

    Ljt Well-Known Member

    Hi everyone, I posted a while ago about a friend turning their back on me when I spoke to them about my depression.

    Well I was asked if I was going to go to her wedding but I decided that because I feel I have been ignored and alienated by her I said I wouldn't go as I didn't feel comfortable, I now feel bad for saying I wont be going, am I wrong? I think I may have hurt her feelings for saying no.

    I recently had a counselling session and I hated every minute of it. Felt like I was being asked questions I couldn't answer.

    I feel I am on the edge of loosing the plot with stress and a feeling of doom constantly. I just keep getting told by my doctor to come back every month but I struggle inbetween this.

    I need help but have nowhere to turn to.
  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hi there,

    I think the friend you confided in just may not have known how to react and may have thought you needed some alone time or felt she may make you worse by talking, there's lots of reasons she may have acted like that, I wish the stigma around this subject would disappear so people will talk about it. It is uncomfortable for people who don't understand. It's also normal to dislike the first few counselling session, I have been in counselling and luckily I found really great ones...yes sometimes it was hard, once so hard I had to just walk out the door but what you need to do is get to know the counsellor, build up the trust...then go from there and ask the therapist to give you ''homework'' that really helped me :)

    As for the wedding invitation, it's really your choice. If she asked were you going I'm pretty damn sure she wants you to could always ask her was confiding in her too much? Open up, it does help.

    Ask your doctor if you can see him/her more often, tell them once a month is really not enough for the distress you are in, if you explain that you might get to be seen more and given a proper chance. Are you on medications? Do they help?

    You always have here to turn to, I do apologize if my advice doesn't cut it but I really do just want to help :)
  3. Unknown_111

    Unknown_111 Forum Buddy Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Hi Ljt,

    It's a difficult call. Yes, if you go then that will help you with your situation and if you don't go then you are respecting her wishes. Personally, I would ask her once and she what's she says. If she says no, then your are fine at least you know her feelings or if she says yes in a nice manner. Then you should go as pondering on it will cause just great emotion. If you think you are going to be uncomfortable there and it will cause you anxiety. Then you know the answer.

    Whatever you decide, I would just get a nice wedding card and wish her all the best for the future. Keep posting here for help and care which you deserve.
  4. sudut

    sudut Well-Known Member

    counselling sux. lol
  5. Ljt

    Ljt Well-Known Member

    Thanks for your reply folks. It's appreciated. Sudut that's how I viewed it also. But who knows.

    Petal I am on setrialine and was on citalopram before that but don't think it's doing much.
  6. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I say give the counselling another try! :) You never know...

    Also, I've noticed a LOT of people are on setralinbe these days (myself included) it was the most prescribed anti depressant in 2011, dunno what the statistic is now. But I think (just my opinion) is because it treats SO many things, if you read the leaftet or look online even you'll find it treats OCD, PTSD, Major depression etc... I am finding it good on max dose, talk to your doctor about the meds and see if they can make any adjustments that might help you.

    Best of luck :)
  7. Ljt

    Ljt Well-Known Member

    That's petal. I am due to go back in the next few days so I may ask them about the different meds or upping my dosage
  8. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I was with my G.P today, she has recommended that I MIX the setraline with lexapro. I never found lexapro much good on its own, she told me to mix them and that I should see a big change in my anxiety. Well I hope so anyway... I had never heard of anyone actually mixing these but the doctor seemed positive that it can work very well so I agreed....we shall see how it goes :)
  9. Ljt

    Ljt Well-Known Member

    I decided not to go. Felt I wasn't welcome and not wanted. I actually feel ok about it and not got that feeling of being left out. Think I will keep myself to myself from now on and not socialise anymore.
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