The ego seeks revenge, forgiveness takes understanding... Forgiveness doesn't mean you forgot or condone wrongs. Those who wish to seek revenge will look for anything to rationalize their self involved interests. Confronting a wrongdoer is much better then revenge as in many cases it creates a cycle of destruction. Some people actually think that by being evil they're being good. Hatred is largely about aggressively judging and labeling someone you do not know. Why do people have to be so vindictive?