Im pretty new here but in the short time I have been here I have noticed theres an issue here. I feel that its something that can be adressed. That we can resolve this instead of letting it fester. Letting it keep hurting the people in our community. Letting it prevent us from coming together and helping etchother as much as we all deserve. Before reading this I want to be very clear. I do not want this to become a 'this one time a mod did this to me and Im upset'. I do not want this to be some sort of topic to adress individuial issues. Thats something we all need to take care of in a PM with the person we have an issue with. Im not sure if I have the ability to moderate a topic I start but if I can and I see someone post something along those lines (Mod or User) I will get rid of the reply. We are here for help. Were here because we are in pain. Because we need to connect with others and work through the things in life that are causeing us so much pain. That are keeping us from being happy and living life in a way that we enjoy. Given the extreem nature of this community every conversation could potentionaly be a life or death issue. That creates a lot of stress. Its a lot to handle. Its a burden I cant imagine anyone carrying without hurting themselves in the process. I know that I feel so bad when I feel like I have failed to reach someone. When I feel like I have offended someone or caused them pain here. This creates situations that have no 'right answer' There are too many cases when its a 'loose loose' and the mod that takes action has to deal with the pain they have cused someone. They put themselve in a place where they have their own issues to deal with but they are forced to put that aside to help others. Even when they themselves feel depressed and are falling appart the position demands that they have to reach out to those in need. To help us with our problems when They themselves need the help. They have to push their feelings aside and be there for a person. Too often that person cant be helped and it just drain them and and brings them down. On the other side is the users. We are in so much pain and need help. Its hard to think about anothers persons problems when we ourselves feel so bad that death feels like the only way out. When our trust has been violated and sometimes we cant even reach out to get the help we need. When reaching out ends up hurting us more than helping us. When we are in pain and a mod tells us to be quite because of their obligation to the rest of those around us. I feel theres a growing rift. Distrust and anger at the Mods and frustration and pain from dealin with users. I know in the short time I have been here I have already felt offended and hurt by a mod. It took a lot for me to see her reasoning and I am still not happy with it but I do know she had the best intententions at hand. I want this topic to help us work through this. I want us to get to a place that Mods dont feel alinated and users dont feel abused. I cant speak for every one else but I know I need this. I need this community and the support I am getting from it. I am gratefull for the sacrifices mods make for me.