The little things for in moment coping

randomguy9

Put's the "Pro" in Profanity
#1
So I am wondering what things others use to cope in the moment where the suicidal feelings start to get harder to resists. Figured I'd make a thread about it.

In no particular order.

Breathing exercises: Breathing is something that we always have with us. It can be the difference between a state of panic and a sate of being a bit more reasonable.

music: calming stuff... I like instrumental stuff.

pictures: I printed out some pictures of family/friends. I rarely leave the house without them in my vehicle at this point. A nice reminder of those who care... and the right picture can really show you what you mean to somebody else.

So what does everyone else do?
 

Acy

Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense
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#2
randomguy9, I do some breathing exercises and music helps too.

snuggle my cat
go for a walk
call and talk to someone
read, write, find something on TV that catches my interest
watch comedy clips on YouTube
pictures of animals at CuteOverload
sleep if I can

Snuggling Star (my cat), music, reading, and the comedy clips seem to be the ones that work fast and have a fairly long-lasting effect. :) Walking is good if I see animals in the woods. :)
 

Witty_Sarcasm

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#3
These are mine:

watching movies
watching shows I like
listening to music, sometimes even depressing music helps (weird I know)
looking at pictures
reading
writing
cleaning (because it distracts me)
going for a walk
shopping, maybe I'll find something I like
talking to people, even if it's about nothing to do with my feelings
watching birds, squirrels, and another animals in the yard
trying to clear my mind, to make it a blank slate
find something to laugh about, sometimes it can be something stupid and silly, but it works

Don't know if any of these will help anyone, but if they do, that's great. :)
 

hopeless

Well-Known Member
#4
Ignoring my feelings in the moment, but being sure to deal with them in a safe place helps. this allows me to distract myself and take care of what us more important - like my kids. it is just extremely important that the feelings are dealt with as soon as possible.
 
#7
I find it's all about keeping busy:
- Making sure I get out of bed (easier said than done I know, but getting up and feeling 'awake' helps a lot)
- Get to work on time (really helps if I go and get a coffee and sit down for a bit)
- Exercise! (The number 1 thing. Even if I enjoy it less when I'm depressed, it still does wonders)
- Socialise (staying alone with only myself and my mind is deadly. This can be as simple as a phone call to someone about some benign topic. Puts the fun back in life, can't take it too seriously)
- staying away from the internet, especially social media (flicking over the same page 100 times isn't a good coping strategy IMO)
- watch/read/listen my heroes (e.g. J.k. Rowling is a hero of mine so I like to watch interviews she does and read her books. Inspiring)
- being open with the people I trust (not piling it on them, they're not my therapist, but letting them know it's a bad day. "Hey, today's a bad day. I don't feel like talking do you wanna go see a movie?" - works wonders)
- doing things to improve my physical appearance (buying clothes, having a shave, plucking eyebrows etc. I'm a male btw)
- staying clean (showering and tidying my living space. Taking pride in my space)
- making and eating a good meal (taking time to prepare and indulge in a meal is really good, especially whilst listening to some tunes;))
- sex (and I don't mean a hard fuck or one night stand, I mean a slow, passionate love making session)
- taking the small things for what they're worth (I ,like most people with depression,struggle socially. Still, I take pride in the friendships I have. Reminding myself of this is a good perspective builder)

Hope this helps!
 
#8
I've memorized word for word dr Seuss's "Oh, the Places You'll Go!" . I find it cheers me up, plus i love reciting it to my 3 year old son.



Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And when things start to happen,
don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along.
You'll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on your way up!
You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you'll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don' t
Because, sometimes, you won't.

I'm sorry to say so
but, sadly, it's true
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump,
you're not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
A place you could sprain both you elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or waiting around for a Yes or a No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying.
You'll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. there are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't.
Because, sometimes, they won't.

I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul
On you will go
though your enemies prowl
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike
and I know you'll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3 / 4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!
 

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