The little things for in moment coping

Discussion in 'Strategies for Success' started by randomguy9, Apr 28, 2014.

  1. randomguy9

    randomguy9 Put's the "Pro" in Profanity

    So I am wondering what things others use to cope in the moment where the suicidal feelings start to get harder to resists. Figured I'd make a thread about it.

    In no particular order.

    Breathing exercises: Breathing is something that we always have with us. It can be the difference between a state of panic and a sate of being a bit more reasonable.

    music: calming stuff... I like instrumental stuff.

    pictures: I printed out some pictures of family/friends. I rarely leave the house without them in my vehicle at this point. A nice reminder of those who care... and the right picture can really show you what you mean to somebody else.

    So what does everyone else do?
  2. Acy

    Acy Mama Bear - TLC, Common Sense Staff Member Safety & Support

    randomguy9, I do some breathing exercises and music helps too.

    snuggle my cat
    go for a walk
    call and talk to someone
    read, write, find something on TV that catches my interest
    watch comedy clips on YouTube
    pictures of animals at CuteOverload
    sleep if I can

    Snuggling Star (my cat), music, reading, and the comedy clips seem to be the ones that work fast and have a fairly long-lasting effect. :) Walking is good if I see animals in the woods. :)
  3. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Eccentric writer, general weirdo, heedless heathen

    These are mine:

    watching movies
    watching shows I like
    listening to music, sometimes even depressing music helps (weird I know)
    looking at pictures
    cleaning (because it distracts me)
    going for a walk
    shopping, maybe I'll find something I like
    talking to people, even if it's about nothing to do with my feelings
    watching birds, squirrels, and another animals in the yard
    trying to clear my mind, to make it a blank slate
    find something to laugh about, sometimes it can be something stupid and silly, but it works

    Don't know if any of these will help anyone, but if they do, that's great. :)
  4. hopeless

    hopeless Well-Known Member

    Ignoring my feelings in the moment, but being sure to deal with them in a safe place helps. this allows me to distract myself and take care of what us more important - like my kids. it is just extremely important that the feelings are dealt with as soon as possible.
  5. Unknown_111

    Unknown_111 Forum Buddy Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    In terms of a coping mechanism I listen to music and appreciate the simple things in life.
  6. pat1

    pat1 Active Member

    tai chi,meditation and qigong...changes how I think
  7. I find it's all about keeping busy:
    - Making sure I get out of bed (easier said than done I know, but getting up and feeling 'awake' helps a lot)
    - Get to work on time (really helps if I go and get a coffee and sit down for a bit)
    - Exercise! (The number 1 thing. Even if I enjoy it less when I'm depressed, it still does wonders)
    - Socialise (staying alone with only myself and my mind is deadly. This can be as simple as a phone call to someone about some benign topic. Puts the fun back in life, can't take it too seriously)
    - staying away from the internet, especially social media (flicking over the same page 100 times isn't a good coping strategy IMO)
    - watch/read/listen my heroes (e.g. J.k. Rowling is a hero of mine so I like to watch interviews she does and read her books. Inspiring)
    - being open with the people I trust (not piling it on them, they're not my therapist, but letting them know it's a bad day. "Hey, today's a bad day. I don't feel like talking do you wanna go see a movie?" - works wonders)
    - doing things to improve my physical appearance (buying clothes, having a shave, plucking eyebrows etc. I'm a male btw)
    - staying clean (showering and tidying my living space. Taking pride in my space)
    - making and eating a good meal (taking time to prepare and indulge in a meal is really good, especially whilst listening to some tunes;))
    - sex (and I don't mean a hard fuck or one night stand, I mean a slow, passionate love making session)
    - taking the small things for what they're worth (I ,like most people with depression,struggle socially. Still, I take pride in the friendships I have. Reminding myself of this is a good perspective builder)

    Hope this helps!
  8. outsidemike

    outsidemike New Member

    I've memorized word for word dr Seuss's "Oh, the Places You'll Go!" . I find it cheers me up, plus i love reciting it to my 3 year old son.

    Today is your day.
    You're off to Great Places!
    You're off and away!

    You have brains in your head.
    You have feet in your shoes
    You can steer yourself
    any direction you choose.
    You're on your own. And you know what you know.
    And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

    You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
    About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
    With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
    you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

    And you may not find any
    you'll want to go down.
    In that case, of course,
    you'll head straight out of town.

    It's opener there
    in the wide open air.

    Out there things can happen
    and frequently do
    to people as brainy
    and footsy as you.

    And when things start to happen,
    don't worry. Don't stew.
    Just go right along.
    You'll start happening too.


    You'll be on your way up!
    You'll be seeing great sights!
    You'll join the high fliers
    who soar to high heights.

    You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
    You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
    Wherever you fly, you'll be the best of the best.
    Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

    Except when you don' t
    Because, sometimes, you won't.

    I'm sorry to say so
    but, sadly, it's true
    and Hang-ups
    can happen to you.

    You can get all hung up
    in a prickle-ly perch.
    And your gang will fly on.
    You'll be left in a Lurch.

    You'll come down from the Lurch
    with an unpleasant bump.
    And the chances are, then,
    that you'll be in a Slump.

    And when you're in a Slump,
    you're not in for much fun.
    Un-slumping yourself
    is not easily done.

    You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
    Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
    A place you could sprain both you elbow and chin!
    Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
    How much can you lose? How much can you win?

    And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
    or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
    Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
    Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
    for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

    You can get so confused
    that you'll start in to race
    down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
    and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space,
    headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
    The Waiting Place...

    ...for people just waiting.
    Waiting for a train to go
    or a bus to come, or a plane to go
    or the mail to come, or the rain to go
    or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
    or waiting around for a Yes or a No
    or waiting for their hair to grow.
    Everyone is just waiting.

    Waiting for the fish to bite
    or waiting for wind to fly a kite
    or waiting around for Friday night
    or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
    or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
    or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants
    or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
    Everyone is just waiting.

    That's not for you!

    Somehow you'll escape
    all that waiting and staying.
    You'll find the bright places
    where Boom Bands are playing.

    With banner flip-flapping,
    once more you'll ride high!
    Ready for anything under the sky.
    Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

    Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
    There are points to be scored. there are games to be won.
    And the magical things you can do with that ball
    will make you the winning-est winner of all.
    Fame! You'll be famous as famous can be,
    with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

    Except when they don't.
    Because, sometimes, they won't.

    I'm afraid that some times
    you'll play lonely games too.
    Games you can't win
    'cause you'll play against you.

    All Alone!
    Whether you like it or not,
    Alone will be something
    you'll be quite a lot.

    And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
    you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
    There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
    that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

    But on you will go
    though the weather be foul
    On you will go
    though your enemies prowl
    On you will go
    though the Hakken-Kraks howl
    Onward up many
    a frightening creek,
    though your arms may get sore
    and your sneakers may leak.

    On and on you will hike
    and I know you'll hike far
    and face up to your problems
    whatever they are.

    You'll get mixed up, of course,
    as you already know.
    You'll get mixed up
    with many strange birds as you go.
    So be sure when you step.
    Step with care and great tact
    and remember that Life's
    a Great Balancing Act.
    Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
    And never mix up your right foot with your left.

    And will you succeed?
    Yes! You will, indeed!
    (98 and 3 / 4 percent guaranteed.)


    be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
    or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
    you're off to Great Places!
    Today is your day!
    Your mountain is waiting.
    So...get on your way!