The lost treasure

[muslim]

i am sure in the end of the post u will know what that title means

did any one asked himself
who is the only one that wants u to be better than him

did someone asked himself whom remembers me and i always forget

i think it is our treasure that we forget

they r our parents
many of us(i am one of them)life takes him and forget his parents
may be we didnt visit them for monthes
may be we think telefone is enough just a call and i am a polite son
if we live with them always loud speaking
always rude
always do what we c right and forget they have their rights

as for my self i work outside my country and be back every 4 monthes
sometimes i remember my mom and have my eyes wet

so if ur mother is beside or u live with her
just visit her and sit beside and kiss her hands and
say sorry for any thing i made that hurted u

sorry my lost treasure

 

[Edicius si Evol]

Well...what you are trying to say is a positive thing.
One should respect the parents and one should think about the fact that we sometimes unintentionally hurt our parents.

We never know when our parents will die...and they don't live forever.
They have been good to us all our life and raised us..were patient with us.

So when they are old or when we are grown-up it is our time that we should be there for them and should care for them when they need us.


BUT:

Not all parents are the same. Parents also hurt their children. Sometimes unintentionally...but they do. Most children also hurt their parents unintentionally.
Some parents hurt their children also intentioally...I don't want to trigger anybody here but of course there are parents who abuse their children and intentionally treat them very bad and do a lot of bad things to them.

In this board there *are* some people who suffered from all kinds of abuse through their parents.
I don't think it's wise posting such a thing in such a forum then.

It makes such people feel guilty. Nobody has to respect or care for parents who treated their kids bad.

And: I also think everybody has his/her own life and should live independent.
Meaning: I don't agree with this "visit your mom as often as possible" part.

Sure, if u love ur parents...care for them. But a call also shows that you care.
Also a visit sometimes.

But you live your own life after all and shouldn't be dependent.

just visit her and sit beside and kiss her hands

disagree...i think kissing the HANDS of anybody..doesn't matter of whom...is strange for both. For the one being kissed on the hands and the one who does so.

 

[muslim]

for me even if parents offended me
or hurt me

they r my parents and have their rights

 

[theleastofthese]

THat is a very forgiving perspective. But if my parents had abused or neglected me (which they didn't - we had a lovely childhood), I'd forgive them, for my own sake, but probably have nothing whatsoever to do with them any more, also for my own sake.

I can understand completely where Edicius is coming from. Some parents have so horribly abused or neglected their kids that it's ruined the kids for life. I know some people who are STILL in counseling over the damage done to them by their parents!! Sexual abuse, beating, starving, ignoring - all things done to kids by the people who are SUPPOSED to love them the most!:ohmy: It's also my opinion that parents who abuse/neglect their kids have given up their parental rights by their behavior. Good grief! I treat my animals better than some kids are treated!:ohmy:

just my opinion...

least

 

[muslim]

THat is a very forgiving perspective. But if my parents had abused or neglected me (which they didn't - we had a lovely childhood), I'd forgive them, for my own sake, but probably have nothing whatsoever to do with them any more, also for my own sake.

I can understand completely where Edicius is coming from. Some parents have so horribly abused or neglected their kids that it's ruined the kids for life. I know some people who are STILL in counseling over the damage done to them by their parents!! Sexual abuse, beating, starving, ignoring - all things done to kids by the people who are SUPPOSED to love them the most!:ohmy: It's also my opinion that parents who abuse/neglect their kids have given up their parental rights by their behavior. Good grief! I treat my animals better than some kids are treated!:ohmy:

just my opinion...

least

i thinck u r right in all u said

but i have to say something

the most of cases near 95% of parents deserve care and to take great attention of their rights and to remember that they suffered a lot for the sake of us
this category needs to be remembered and never be neglected from our life because of being busy and havent time

for the others who hurts their kids
i recommend that we must forgive them and try to remember their kindly moments and i am sure our forgiveness will giva a great result that we cant imagine