Until you have had sex and WANTED to be doing it, your a virgin. If you are raped, your still a virgin after that. If not then I lied to a lot of people about being a virgin before...I mean I dont count it as sex. Sex is like something wonderful between two consenting adults who are doing it because they BOTH want to do it. THAT is sex. So if to lose ones virginity is to have sex then after being raped, your still a virgin. Right????