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The Male Depression Information and Resources Thread

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by Clockwork Reality, Aug 30, 2009.

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  1. Clockwork Reality

    Clockwork Reality Well-Known Member

    I'm a 27 year-old male and I suffer from depression. I've found that, when it comes to treating depression in men, that there seems to not be a whole lot of information on the subject. That being said, I think it would be beneficial to have a list of resources specifically linked to male depression. I know that it took me years to come to grips with the fact that there wasn't something quite right, and even longer for me to even realize I was depressed. Hopefully, some of these resources will help others. If you are male who suspects that you are suffering from depression, or are a family member of a man who is suffering, I encourage you to take a look at the links and support groups below.

    Disclaimer: This thread is not meant to segregate gender in any way; if someone wants to make a thread about depression specifically for women, then please do so.

    Here are some quick facts about depression in men:

    * 6 million men report feelings of depression per year, as opposed to 12 million women. These numbers are often seen by medical professionals as not being accurate.

    * Depression in men strikes for a variety of reasons, but the most common include: feelings of failure in their career; unsatisfication with family situation or amount of support they are able to give to their family; unsatisfaction with social status or peer group; unsatisfaction with body image; post-traumatic stress in veterans returning from a combat zone.

    * Men are significantly less likely than women to report feelings of depression. A number of factors may influence this behavior, including social stigma, loss of peer support groups, perception of "being weak" or perceived loss of career advancement.

    * Perhaps as a result of this, men are more likely to succeed at suicide attempts.

    That being said, here are a list of resources specifically relating to depression in men:

    http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/male-depression/MC00041 --good basic information, pretty much goes over the stats and facts that I just glossed over.

    http://www.midlife-passages.com/depressi.htm -- excellent article that discusses common medicinal treatments and theraputic options for male depression, as well side effects

    http://www.mcmanweb.com/male_depression.html -- another good study on male depression, and common symptoms of it

    http://www.askmen.com/sports/bodybuilding/56b_fitness_tip.html--it may surprise you to learn that men are actually more prone to body dysmorphia (unrealistic view of physical self) than women.

    http://www.ptsdmanual.com/ -- excellent resources that analyzes the causes of PTSD and treatment methods in veterans.

    http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Abuser/abusive_help.htm -- men suffering from depression may turn to abusing their family members as an expression of their depressed mood. Here's a good resource for those wondering if they are being abusive. If you are the person being abused in the relationship, I encourage you to separate yourself and children from the situation immediately.

    It's important to realize that the symptoms of male depression are likely to have a very profound effect on family. Symptoms of male depression include alcoholism and overt aggression. Sadly, when the head male of a household is depressed, depression tends to find the rest of the family. That being said, here are a list of support groups:

    http://www.aa.org -- Alcoholic's Anonymous.

    http://www.bddsupport.org.uk -- UK-based support group for people of both genders suffering from body dismorphic disorder.

    http://www.maledepression.com/ -- I read about this website in a copy of Men's Health and Fitness magazine. Started by a company executive who ran marathons to deal with his depression. Has links to other resources.

    http://www.iraqwarveterans.org/ptsd.htm -- long list of links to support groups for those returning from a combat zone

    And, of course, links for those suffering from suicidal ideation. If you are currently suicidal, don't hesitate and contact an emergency room immediately!

    Our very own SF, where you'll find support no matter the time of day: www.suicideforum.com

    http://www.samaritans.org/ -- UK-based organization.

    http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/Veterans/Default.aspx - US national suicide hotline. Veterans of the wars in Iraq or Afghanistan have a special hotline reserved.

    That being said, I hope this thread can help others who, like me, were lost for resources for a long time. Others who wish to contribue, your links are more than welcome!
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  2. Ed.

    Ed. Well-Known Member

    Thank you
  3. necrodude

    necrodude Well-Known Member

    interesting... some of my issues with depression are emotional ones... and personal failure, etc. why cant we as men face these issues? thats what bothers me. not how many but why?
  4. Clockwork Reality

    Clockwork Reality Well-Known Member

    Different reasons. Now, I can't purport to know you personally, but there are some characteristics of the male ego that might contribute.

    First and foremost, we're indoctrinated with the belief that men must be strong and stoic in the face of adversity. How many times as a child did you fall and skin your knees, and somebody tell you to "suck it up and keep playing" if you cried? I'm willing to bet that it happened to you, just as it happened to me.

    Also consider the imagery that we're given as men. As a culture, we celebrate the action hero . . . let's take a look at the character of John Rambo, for example. Rambo is a man driven by personal demons from the Vietnam War. How does Rambo work through his problems? Not through calm and rational discourse . . . no, Rambo shoots people.

    What men are fundamentally stuck with is a connundrum. We have on on end a medical culture that says, "depression is normal, seek out help," while our social and cultural conditioning says, "suck it up and drive on. Stop being a pussy."

    So what do we do then?

    Well, I'm glad that people are posting and responding to this thread, for starters. Hopefully we can get a good discussion going amongst men here about coping strategies. Since everything is anonymous, hopefully other men on the website will be candid and use it as an outlet.

    I personally draw inspiration from Winston Churchill. One of the greatest leaders of the 20th century, Churchill struggled with depression his entire life, describing it as his personal "black dog" in his memoirs. If a great man like Churchill feels it fine to admit he has depression, then it's certainly fine for me to take proactive measures to overcome it.
  5. necrodude

    necrodude Well-Known Member

    there are a few more "personal" reasons but i agree with the stereotypical views of our gender. not intentionally... just our past.
  6. SuicideIsTheWrongOption

    SuicideIsTheWrongOption Well-Known Member

    That sums me up quite well. I've had depression since i was 13, and i realized it was actual depression at 15. Until now i've been sucking it up and muddling through, but the other day i walked into a gun shop, and not because i love hunting (which i don't). So today i met with a therapist.

    But, it's scary how accurately those sum up how my depression is, or why i actually have it.

    Thanks for going through the work to post this.
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