the only person who ever wanted me was my abuser

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undercoverlover

both dead and alive until somebody opens the box
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lately ive just felt really unwanted. ive been trying to jump back into relationships despite the abusive one im recovering from, since my therapist thought it would be a good idea. whenever i ask somebody, they never feel the same way. when i finally thought i found someone, he turned out to be aromantic and only wanted something platonic. i feel really unwanted and shit because the only time someone wanted me was so they could abuse and manipulate me and chip away my self-worth. i feel pathetic.
 

Twocky61

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I would call your abuser pathetic Undercoverlover; not you

It is really sad you feel worthless & unloved & unwanted & that despite your ex abusing you, you feel wanted by him

The relationship you thought you had found Undercoverlover: He only wanting a platonic relationship with you: Was he aware of your past with your ex? If he was aware he may have only said he wanted a platonic relationship because of that fact; that he felt you were perhaps not ready for a relationship & maybe if you had stayed together a relationship would have developed in time, when you were ready

tc Undercoverlover

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undercoverlover

both dead and alive until somebody opens the box
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thank you
and as for the platonic relationship, i know for a fact that he is aromantic and doesnt really feel romantic feelings at all. he and i have been friends since forever and i think he'd trust my judgement on when id be ready for a relationship.
but yeah, thank you very much. i just need to constantly remind myself that my abuser didnt want me, she was abusive and i should be glad she is out of my life.
 
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