The other half

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by bloodysunday, Sep 7, 2007.

  1. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    The other half

    The other half lied
    The other half cheated
    The other half had affairs
    The other half was sacked for theft
    The other hal was sacked for sexual harrassment
    The other half maintains employment for 4 weeks maximum
    The other half had family bereavements

    During it all..

    I forgave
    I stood by the otherhalf
    I was shocked
    I was supportive
    I comforted
    I counselled
    I stood by the other half


    The other half has disappeared
    The other half has walked away
    The other half refuses to talk
    The other half ignores phone calls
    The other half has gone

    I am left..

    With massive debts
    A reposession order
    2 children

    Facing me is bleak, dark clouds. nothing more than storms.

    Then out of the blue, a phone call from the other half saying it is all my fault. That the other half no longer trusts me.

    I am flabberghasted. I don't understand. I stood by the other half.

    What did I do wrong?

    I want to die.
  2. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    My heart it is broken.

    Where is the sense in going on?
  3. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    The other half needs to be taken out and SHOT!!!!
    What a bastard:mad:
  4. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    What will that solve?


    My heart has been wrenched in two. I and my children are facing homelessness.
  5. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    i have half an hour to put on my haven't-got-a-single-worry-in-the-world face and go to work

    All I really want to do is curl up and cry better still, die
  6. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Hang in there hun. My other half buggered off leaving me in much the same shit you are finding yourself in.
    8 months on I still don't know whether I'm on my head or my elbow. What with trying to deal with the fact he's gone, the trauma of the way he did it, trying to get the money he owes my parents out of him and knowing when my money runs out I can't afford to put a roof over our heads..well!!

    Are you in the UK or State side?
    If UK your local council will help re-house you and your children.

    Take deep breaths, go see a citzen advice bureau (they can help get any creditors off your back) and try not to listen to anything he's saying about it being your fault.

    Feel free to pm me anytime if you need to talk to someone going thru the same shit. :hug:
  7. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    That broke my heart. I truly feel for you hun. The fact that you stood by him through all of that shows how strong you are because most people would have walked on the first one. He doesn't deserve you ever, know that it is not your fault at all, and you deserve much better than that shit bag. Please hang in there hun.


  8. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    This is my 2nd marriage (I should never have trusted another). My divorce settlement tens of thousands of pounds bailed the other half out, the other half was sinking in a quagmire of debt that until we married I was unaware of. Had I know we would not have stayed together.

    All my life I have been brought up, if you want something, save the pounds and when enough has been saved, then go ouut and buy whatever it was. There are two lessons I learnt, one was that sometimes during the saving process, whatever it was I wanted so badly wasn't really all that good. The second thing I learnt was that when I saved long and hard and achieved what I wanted and was able to buy what I wanted without credit or going into debt, I valued it more.

    It wasn't enough that I bailed the other half out with my settlement, one year later the other half had run up even more debts, spending money on porn websites and whores.

    Now the other half is missing. The mobile rings, but there is no answer. I have emailed, phoned, text, I have evn tried IM. Nothing!

    Out of desperation, I visited the other half's friend. I drove a 200 mile rund trip to be told yes the other half had been there but on Tuesday had gone to London, but the friend hadn't seen or heard from my other half since then. I asked that the friend contact me if the friend heard from my other half. But I suspect the other half has told the friend not to.

    Sorry, I am babbling. I am angry, frustrated, worried, concerned, anxious, depressed, and it's all my fault.

    I worry that the other half has taken their own life, that the other half is lying in a hospital bed alone, dying. Worse still dead in a ditch.

    It's all my fault, I should have been a better spouse
  9. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    How is any of this your fault?
  10. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    Because the othr half is depressed. The other half knows and does nothing about it.

    The other half is depressed and apparently

    I am unsupportive.
    I am uncaring
    I am selfish
    I am nasty
    I am unloving
    I am not trustworthy
    I belittle the other half
    I am intimdating

    The list goes on and on

    So you see, it's all my fault, the way the other half behaves

    I work full time, I cook, I clean, I do all the DIY, I see to all the childcare, I do all the washing and ironing, I do the shopping.

    I ask the other half to cut the lawn and I am being unreasonable
  11. bloodysunday

    bloodysunday Well-Known Member

    The other half has got in touch

    Because I refused to participate in anal sex and other sexual degrading acts i am unreasonable

    Seems that because I refuse to be degraded I am depriving the other half sexually
  12. Cerberus

    Cerberus Well-Known Member

    you really need to put this other half in check. he iis not treating you as his equal but more like a slave. it will continue and get worse unless you do something about it.
  13. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    The other half needs to be an ex-half :mad: