I have physical pain that is worsening, on top of what seems like unrelenting depression, anxiety. I'm in my 50's now, and health wise things don't look good nor will they really get better. I'm tired of the same life, of things that don't work out. I'm feeling especially isolated and hopeless. I moved in with a boyfriend a year and half ago, he had lost his job and seemed to agree it was a good idea, only to later claim he would have been fine without me and I "manipulated" my way here. He has especially been unwilling to work on things for a long time, been very disrespectful and hurtful with things h e's said. I'm on disability so moving here was a big deal for me. I had to leave most of my belongings behind, and I've no savings and finding an affordable place seems hopeless..... i've looked. My income, even if it was all used towards rent, would maybe cover a bachelor apt., but I cant do that.
I've paid my way here, for everything, groceries and rent.
One thing that makes it even harder to leave is my son is allowed to stay here (although I hear constantly how much neither one of us is wanted here), but my son has difficulties holding a job, recently had another one, and got let go because of his intellectual difficulty. I've been threatened by this man who says now "I don't love you anymore", that he will leave if I don't.
I said go ahead. Only to hear later that it isn't a realistic or likely thing he can do. Even later to say I could stay. Later again to say he can't tolerate or stand my presence anymore.
In the past I did the wrong this as I only realize made it worse, beg to try and work it out. He'd agree. But I'd say there was no working on things.
Doesn't matter. Saying what he has, hurts enough to make me hopeless and know pleading will never change him.
I have many faults. I have diabetes and he has said "no man would want you with your diabetes that causes your mood swings"..... To that I said, and I think its true, "I think there are kind enough men out there that would actually care and try to help when I need to remember to eat etc. and could be understanding of it".
I could write forever about why I knew for a long time this doesn't work with him, but I ignored it all because I felt desperately alone as soon as he ever hinted we aren't going to last together. I'm getting older, and deep down I believe he would be the last man I'd have in my life, and I cant seem to bring myself to accept a reality of being single and alone for what is left.
Bottom line, tired of physical pain, emotional, don't know if I'll ever help my son or be useful or really wanted by anyone. Yes it seems sometimes a person might be making life better by doing a final exit. Thanks to anyone who listened.
I've paid my way here, for everything, groceries and rent.
One thing that makes it even harder to leave is my son is allowed to stay here (although I hear constantly how much neither one of us is wanted here), but my son has difficulties holding a job, recently had another one, and got let go because of his intellectual difficulty. I've been threatened by this man who says now "I don't love you anymore", that he will leave if I don't.
I said go ahead. Only to hear later that it isn't a realistic or likely thing he can do. Even later to say I could stay. Later again to say he can't tolerate or stand my presence anymore.
In the past I did the wrong this as I only realize made it worse, beg to try and work it out. He'd agree. But I'd say there was no working on things.
Doesn't matter. Saying what he has, hurts enough to make me hopeless and know pleading will never change him.
I have many faults. I have diabetes and he has said "no man would want you with your diabetes that causes your mood swings"..... To that I said, and I think its true, "I think there are kind enough men out there that would actually care and try to help when I need to remember to eat etc. and could be understanding of it".
I could write forever about why I knew for a long time this doesn't work with him, but I ignored it all because I felt desperately alone as soon as he ever hinted we aren't going to last together. I'm getting older, and deep down I believe he would be the last man I'd have in my life, and I cant seem to bring myself to accept a reality of being single and alone for what is left.
Bottom line, tired of physical pain, emotional, don't know if I'll ever help my son or be useful or really wanted by anyone. Yes it seems sometimes a person might be making life better by doing a final exit. Thanks to anyone who listened.