I have a problem with saying no. I don't feel I have the right to say no - and even on the few occasions I do say no, all it takes is for the person I am saying no to to exhibit some sort of negative emotion (get mad or upset or just seem "off" with me) and I end up aquiescing to whatever it was they asked/wanted in order to "fix" it - regardless of how much I really don't want to. Things like - doing people's work for them, taking on extra work, lending people money, going places/doing things I don't want to do... basically the list is endless. The most worrying aspect of this is physical intimacy. I do not feel I have the right to say no. Or even "wait" or "slow down" or "Give me a minute" - which is difficult when I get flashbacks and panic attacks from being raped. I don't know how to deal with it or what to do about it. Even when the other person would probably be okay with me saying no, or "not now" or "just give me a minute" (cos lets face it - I know any reasonable person would be) I can't do it. Not without working myself up into a shakey teary panic in case they're cross. Or - if I am honest - in case they don't accept no. I sort of feel that if I say yes - I control it slightly. It is partly fear that "no" will be irrelevant. But it is mostly "who do you think you are that you believe you have a right to say no?" I don't really know what I am asking. How to deal maybe? Ideas? Advice? Someone to tell me that I am not totally unhinged?