They are just words...

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Forgotten_Man, Oct 15, 2006.

  1. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    Whenever someone speaks badly about you they are just words. Whenever someone condescends to you they are just words. Whenever somone points out your lesser qualities they are just words. Yet they hurt more than any pain I have ever felt. People say, "What do you care what they think?" is it so easy to sit back and let someone talk poorly of you and not feel a thing? But then again 80% of my life people have talked poorly of me so I guess I have never known self-acceptance. I just don't get it why is it whenever another person speaks poorly of me it hurts? And it does not have to be of me specifically. It can be speaking poorly of a group in which I am associated with. The fact is that it just hurts, the pain is so bad that I cannot even describe it. Why is it just words that hurt? Why do they hurt me? They are not even a tangeble thing. They are just soundwaves, electromagnetic pulses or text. Yet they hurt more than any pain I have ever experienced in my who life. Why why why, why do these words make me want to end it all. Why do they make me cry or feel uncomfortable? Why do they do anything like that? I fucking hate it, words ruin everything for me. I was happier today but then some words were uttered that hurt me and now I am back to square one in pain and depression. Why do they make me like this why do I have to be hurt. I guess it is beceause I let them hurt me? Yes that has to be it otherwise they would not hurt. It is my fault they hurt me everything is my fault. All my misfortuane even the misforturan caused by other people. They are all my fault I chose to make them happen and they magically happened. The only person to blame here is myself because that is who molds the world around me. Because it would be to easy to blame my misfortuan on others especially since I brought it on myself. I spoke words which they then respoke and then those words hurt me because I let them. I am in the instigator of my own suffering. Not others it would be wrong to blame them for my actions.... after all they are just words they have no meaning unless we give them meaning. They hurt us only if we let them we can just turn the other way and pretend they were not said right?
     
  2. NoMotiv

    NoMotiv Active Member

    Look, words can and do hurt all of us. Shrugging of a loose comment once isnt such a problem, but when hurtful things are being said to you continuously it becomes much, much harder. You are not at fault here, any person would have trouble dealing with it, just some more easy than others.

    But you are also right in that you yourself are the only one who can determine how much these words affect you. You have to find the inner strength, the inner courage to deal with them and refuse to be treated like a person of lesser value any longer. A lot of people either dont know what they are saying, or do not realise the impact of their words on others. There is nothing you can do about it other than try to ignore their words or deal with them in a manner that doesnt hurt you.

    Also, words are not just cruel things. Words can also bring comfort, show kindness, friendship and love, and heal. Words themselves are not bad or evil, they are just vehicles to transfer thoughts and feelings between persons. Here you can find kind words, caring words, helping words and healing words, because we care and want to help you.

    I wish you Strength, Courage and Peace my friend. I hope you find a way to deal with the hurtful words.
     
  3. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    Like I said all my fault since I am weak. But hey we all cannot be strong.

    And I do have ways of dealing with what people say. They often times involve me bleeding.
     
  4. Kinetic

    Kinetic Well-Known Member

    Words hurt.
    But if we dont hear words its even worse.
     
  5. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    Oh and why is that?
     
  6. SoSweet

    SoSweet Member

    You lose the possibility to hear good words, and with it, you lose hope.
     
  7. Kinetic

    Kinetic Well-Known Member

    exactly
     
  8. hottignorance

    hottignorance Active Member

    Words hurt more then any thing.....


    I would rather be beaten....


    Then called any name........ "fag" "ugly" "monster" "loser" "freak"


    Words don't bounce off.... They stick with you...



    :(
     
  9. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    But I am trying to feel nothing as it stands.

    But they only stick to you if you let them.... right?