Tips To Improve Body Image

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by manutd, Apr 15, 2007.

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  1. manutd

    manutd Member

    Wear clothes you feel comfortable in. Don't wear clothes that feel too tight or restrict movement. Don't hold off on buying clothes you like -- do it now! Dress to express yourself, not to impress others. You should feel good in what you wear.

    Cut labels out of your clothes. The size on the tags shouldn't dictate your mood for the day!

    Stay away from the scale -- as a matter of fact, get rid of it! If your weight needs to be monitored, leave that up to the doctors. How much you weigh should never effect your self-esteem or your sense of who you are.

    Before you look in the mirror, think optimistically.
    When you start your day, decide how you are feeling before going to the mirror. No one looks good with bed-head, and our moods aren't determined by the reflection we see. Start your day with self-affirmations, relax in a hot shower, think of all the positive ways you will cope with any stresses of the day ahead, and think of the things you have to be thankful for in your life... only then are you more prepared to face yourself with pride.

    Talk to yourself at the mirror.
    Focus on what you like and remind yourself that it's okay to like and appreciate what you see, no matter what size you are.

    Stay away from fashion magazines. Let's fact it, most fashion and women's magazines focus on an ideal of beauty that is just not something anyone in real-life can be. Most models make up less than one percent of the human population when it comes to their size! In addition, each one has a staff of people to make them transform into what the final photo looks like -- designers, make-up artists, camera people and lighting specialists, and photo retouchers (think "airbrush"). Unless you can look through these magazines knowing they are purely fantasy, it's just better to stay away from them. Invest in magazines that contribute to who you are -- News magazine, magazines that relate to positive hobbys and interests (art, music, sports, traveling, home decorating, gardening, etc.) -- they make a magazine for just about everything these days... I even recently saw one just for beany-baby collecting!

    Make a "why I like myself" list.
    Think of all the things about YOU that you like -- are you honest? Creative? Intelligent? Compassionate? Loyal? Kind? Think of all the reason you deserve to love yourself and write them down. Hang the list up next to the mirror as a reminder that these things are what make you truly beautiful.

    Take the time to do nice things for your body. One a month get a massage, a manicure, or a facial. Pamper yourself to long hot baths by candlelight. Get together with a friend and give each other pedicures. Buy lotions that feel and smell good and treat yourself to some perfume or body mist. Take naps when you need to, just because you can!

    Take risks to challenge yourself.
    Think of things you normally wouldn't do and try them (you'll find out that the world won't cave in) -- leave the house without makeup, get a wild new haircut (how many years have you had that same hairdo???), spend all day in your pajamas or go out to run an errand in them. The point is, your makeup, hair and clothes do not make you who you are! Prove it!

    Go places you'd never go alone. Ever go to a movie by yourself? Or enjoy a cup of coffee at the local cafe and read the paper? How about a fancy resteraunt, dinner for one? These are treasured experiences, time spent with yourself, and that is the first person you need to get to know and love spending time with. Take the risk and try it!

    Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk.
    When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a stratedy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and pay yourself a compliment!

    Stay active.
    Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone's sense of being. Take up Yoga or Tai' Chi. Join a Karate class. Take a thirty-minute walk three days a week. Get outside and play volleyball with the kids or go rollerskating in the park with your friends. Take a leisurely bike ride at sunrise. Make angels in the snow and sandcastles at the beach. Be active and enjoy life!

    Ask for a hug when you need it. Sometimes there is no better therapy then a hug and a kind word from someone that cares about you, but our loved-ones aren't mind readers! Tell them when you're having a bad day and ask for a hug, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen.

    Protect the child in you.
    Look at children around you now -- would you criticize them for being themselves? Are you focused on the weight of a five-year-old while you watch them play with friends? Wouldn't you protect a child being picked on? Well you don't deserve to be picked on either, and you don't deserve to be picked on by yourself!

    Remind yourself that the people who truly love you, love you for YOU, not for what you look like.

    Remind yourself
    that looking healthy is something positive. It means that you are well rested, eating right and nurturing your soul. It means no more than that, and no less than that.

    Remember the whole world...
    We are all different and we're supposed to be that way. It would be an incredibly boring world if we all looked exactly the same. It's a truly special experience to look around and realize that everyone is beautiful, no matter what size, color or gender they are. There is beauty in everyone, and that includes you!
  2. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    Wow! that is really helpful. I found most of it vert true and insightful. Thank you for being so caring and sharing this with the forum. It's much appreicated hun!! :hug: :hug: :hug:
  3. manutd

    manutd Member

    I thought it might help some people...
    Well i hope it does anyways. :)
  4. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    I'm possitive it will! :wink: :hug:
  5. Allo..

    Allo.. Well-Known Member

    thanks! thats great!!

    CRUSHED Well-Known Member

    It feels good to read them, I'll try and work them

    Thanx :laugh:
  7. thedeafmusician

    thedeafmusician Staff Alumni

    Thankyou for posting this. =)

  8. i really want to try and cut off the tags for my clothes. i do base my mood on my size and its so wrong, i know it.

    ill definately try this soon, i am running out of energy and giving into this cycle of food, weight, and size just is too much for me right now.

    thank you for posting these tips.
  9. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    Im sure that could be very helpful for people that suffer from body image problems.
  10. princess

    princess Member

    wow that actually kinda helps thanks
  11. SeemsPerfect

    SeemsPerfect Guest

    Great info. VERY true, too. :cool:
  12. GhostOfYou

    GhostOfYou Well-Known Member

    Hey, that really helped, thanks :smile:
    I like the hug one :smile:
  13. ari

    ari Staff Alumni

    I always wear clothes that everyone says that are too big for me...I don't want anyone to see me

    I did throw away my scale the last time that I was in treatment..but there are scales everywhere, and I get asked my weight all the time..cant handle that

    I dont look in there mirror for more than a few minutes anymore because I dont like what I see

    I try to but I am in doc offices a ton and what do they have mags...big trigger they are always talking about some diet and so I am pulled to it

    yeah multiple therapists have mad me make these wonderful self affirmation lists....I cant believe them when I am writing them so how am I going to believe them when I read them to myself

    I have tried but none of this has any lasting effects

    I am very active..I go to the gym every day..I run almost doesnt help

    I wish there was someone to give hugs
  14. manutd

    manutd Member


    I know form personal experiance that wearing cloths that are to big for you will just make people notice you even more. They'll be like "oh youve lost so much weight" and then they'll pull your cloths to see your acctual figure...

    You cant handle you weight, tell whoever asks you that i dont know it. I mean loads of people lie about their weight nayways... be honest and say you dont know...

    Try learning to like what you see, becuase this is you. And as the saying goes, "beaty is in the eye of the beholder", you may not like what you see but others may think your the most beatiful thing in the world. Learning to like yourself is hard i know, but just try thinking about ehat you like about yourself. Throw all negativity out of your mind.

    Whenever you go to the doc's office take a book with you. Read i dont know Harry Potter or something instead. Take an MP3 or i pod with you, play games on your mobile or something. Fuck the magazines.

    Like i said before think hard and say that you do believe this becuase its true. Think opptimistically. Dont write "i know how to write" if you dont acctually believe it. Learn to believe it. If youve got nay encouragment for your writing then think of that. (i was using writing as an example it can be anything...)

    The reason staying active is becuase your doing to much of it and your not getting enough nutrients. Athletes are always encouraged to eat more not less. Exercising IS good but not if you do too much...

    And lasdtly im sorry no one is their to igve you hugs. If i was their id be hugging you right now and giving you one everytime i see you. so e - hug?

    If you ever need to talk hun im hear for you.. PM me anytime you like...

    Everyone Else
    I'm glad it helped a few of you. :)
  15. poison

    poison Well-Known Member

    yeah, that was pretty good... thanks
  16. slim_to_none

    slim_to_none Well-Known Member

    thank you for sharing this. its powerful.
    and as someone with an ed. i really felt like there were a few things i could try myself on that list that might help.

    its always nice to read suggestions from other people. =).
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