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Tired, worn out, not earning enough

Discussion in 'Work and Financial Problems' started by cots, Jan 17, 2018.

  1. cots

    cots Well-Known Member

    I don't even know where to start. I hold a bachelor's degree and 3 other diplomas and I have been working for the past ten years and I am still getting paid Entry Level. All my friends are rising through the ranks and rolling in money but I am still stuck here, trapped, and poor.

    I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if it's just immensely terrible luck. I am not even employed full time currently and I'm so afraid to leave my part time job because the market's terribly competitive now, and I'm not confident in getting another employer who would provide me insurance like my current one would.

    The clock is ticking and I'm not getting any younger and seriously I don't even have half of what everyone else around me have in my bank account. My friends talk about taking $10,000 to travel like it's dispensable, and here I am without even $10 to spare for lunch. I am dead embarrassed to go out with them and I avoid socialising at all costs, to the point of just ignoring their texts because I know they're just going to tell me how poor I am when we see each other. I don't really need to hear that.

    I feel like all my education's gone to waste. I spent tonnes of money on them but employers don't care. They just want someone who would do the job for as little money as possible and sadly I have to settle for whatever the market's offering me. This is making me feel so worthless and redundant. After paying bills and buying basic necessities I'm practically left with nothing at all. There are days I cannot even afford basic necessities and have to try to make do. Prices of things are always rising but my income isn't keeping up.

    I do other odd jobs too to give myself more income and it's making me so lethargic and they don't even pay enough. It feels like I'm here desperately trying to scrape every single cent I can find while my friends are all having a good time travelling the world and buying properties and cars when I can't even afford public transport sometimes. Sorry I just needed to vent this out. I know I should be happy that I even have a job but I feel insanely worn out and tired. Feels like no matter how hard I try, it's just "not enough".
  2. nobodyknows71

    nobodyknows71 Forum Pro SF Supporter

    Sometimes a good rant is of benefit. I feel for you though. It must be very hard to see your peers succeeding when you feel like you’re standing still, or maybe even going backwards.
    I don’t have any advice for you but I just wanted to know that someone read your post and you’ve been heard. I wish I knew of a way to help you.

    Take care and keep posting
  3. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear that you are going through this Cots

    I could try to make some recommendations, but it sounds like maybe that's not the thing that you need most right now.
  4. Miriam

    Miriam Active Member

    Hi, reading your post o felt like you were describing my life. I empathise with your hardship and feeling redundant or like your education has been wasted. I also hold a bachelors degree but work at a rate less then a bus driver, Administration officer, customer service officer or sales assistant. I feel exactly the same way re: a pressure to take what's available at a lower rate due to a competitive market which akin to your situation would rather hire staff at the lowest rate therefore finding industrial relations loopholes to categorise staff as "trainees" etc or requires at a basic capacity (despite the fact that they have hired university graduates who they have writing programs, facilitating and managing programs unsupervised - not at all in a trainee capacity - however the company saves $2-4 an hour by employing new staff as "trainees" who aren't supervised, who are recruited because they have bachelors degrees only to be patronized and told it has no currency or relevance to the role - yeah right!

    I have felt suicidal, depleted and hopeless. Then I realised the undergraduate degree is at least leverage to a masters program or recognised qualification which could lead to a more decent salary (at least enough to cover basic living expenses). Once again education is expensive and it is difficult to consider when I am barely surviving now - if anything I need to take on more work not more study! Sorry I have ranted. It sounds like we are experiencing a similar dilemma. It's so demoralising to be restricted from social events and going out because you simply can't afford it. I can't even afford the train fare out of work hours to the city let alone a coffee when I get there. Do you feel isolated and depressed? I can't do any of the things I love doing or go out to meet new people because my income covers only my living expenses.

    Downward Social comparisons of self to same aged peers is not helpful! I found myself doing the same thing last week because both my cousins who are 10years younger then me without degrees have higher paid jobs, new cars, and mortgages with their partners! When I can't even afford toilet paper or petrol the night before pay day somethings, it's stressful and oppressive. To study and work so hard and feel like your not even surviving let alone living your life. I have been suicidal.

    Are you going to apply for another job? I'm gong to have to. Can't live like this anymore.
  5. JmpMster

    JmpMster Have a question? Message Me Staff Member Forum Owner ADMIN

    I am sorry you are struggling, but it does sound like you are putting in the effort and just not getting the break you need. I would strongly agree with not leaving current job if you are in an ultra competitive market until securing a new one- but absolutely do continue to try to get new. Set yourself a goal - to apply to 2 or 5 places a week for jobs more in line with what you want/need and just keep applying, and don;t let no's or no call backs get you down. So long as continue trying to improve your will eventually get the right position. Perseverance is the key to upgrading jobs in a tough competitive market. Once you are unemployed you are instantly in a much worse position to negotiate with future potential employers though because they know you are desperate or likely will be soon so thy can offer the lowest possible package. If you have a job and can get them interested they know they have to offer better than you have , and you have the opportunity to see if current employee will beat the offer as well. It is easy to get down on yourself but it seems you are working hard and doing your best so I do not see a reason for anything but pride for your strong worth ethic, and wish you strength, perseverance , and even a little good luck in getting to a better situation. Believe in yourself.