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not sure if this belongs here, but I feel like I need guidence from someone other than my family and normal friends...

I had my life all figured out for the most part, knew what I wanted, everything. Trouble is, I based it off my fiance. I based my entire life around 1 person.

Well, after 4 years, we split up. Now, I feel like im fucking totally lost. I have no motivation to do anything. My goals... they're all shot. Really, I don't know what I want to do... I hate dating, and I can't seem to motivate myself to do anything. I'm tired of life, tired of all the bullshit, tired of love, tired of being fucking hurt.

- Bacoon...


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I cannot tell you a lot of what to do...I am dealing with that myself. I just wanted to let you know other people have the same delimina. My ex-husband left me cuz I have bi-polar/depression andwe were only married 6.5 yrs. but it felt like extremely longer to me. It is the worst feeling in the world to be alone and no know what you are doing.
I now call it "re-inventing me". It is not what I wanted to do with my life, but that is the cards...are you still grieving the relationship? are you ready to investigate new dreams/goals for yourself?
I hope I did not harm your thinking. PM me if you need to chat more.



Hey :hug:

It's hard when you lose what is most important to you in your life - the thing that keeps you going and gives you all the reasons to exist :hug: It is the finding of the new ideas / goals and aspirations thats going to be the really tough thing now - but maybe in the future - when the hard work has been done - you will like the new life that you have created for yourself..... In the meantime - I am here anytime if you want to chat on the forum or on PM




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Ahh being tired is something really. I just want to sleep right now but I cannot because whenever I want to sleep it takes up time and time just bites.

So what can you do is the question here right? Just start over, look back in your life before you had this person in your life..... and think about what made you happy because before then something had to have made you happy..... I don't know.. then there is the art of distraction. Unless your hobby was tending to that individuals every need that is. But I have found that hobbies kill away the evil thoughts... or at least block them and for a short boost of time you have motivation... this works less and less with me... but you you seem like you have a chance. You seem like this is the first time you have really felt this way and as a result you should be able to knock away your thoughts and fatigue with a simple distraction and maybe find a new person.
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