I'm hoping people on this forum can help me know how to act in my present situation. I have not been on the forum lately - needed a break- it's all so sad. My life is already one big horror show as it is. I have written about my 23 year old son. He is the one with the gifted (160) IQ but he has not done anything with his life. He started ok - going to away to college but even then he would come home every weekend (and often more) and tell us his living situation was horrible or his roommates were whacked out. He spent three years going away then coming home and taking classes here. Each time he was signing leases that he had to pay for even when he wasn't using the apartments. He also signed up for full loads of classes and then either got just a few or no credit for them. In short, he spent his whole college fund (that his grandfather set up for him) on booze, trips, cars etc. He has only held one job in his life and that one he just sat and surfed the net - no real effort. So, he has spent his college money far short of his degree and he really has no job experience to speak of. He also has alienated all his friends and he is now a full-blown alcoholic (we find many empty fifths in his room and he spends most waking hours in local bars). We told him last fall when he signed a lease and went back to college that he had to stay up there and only come home one weekend a month. We didn't know the extent of his drinking then and thought he just needed a push into engaging in his own life. Last Oct. he tried to hang himself (the shower curtain rod broke) and surrounding him were empty fifths and Xanax bottle. He was hospitalized for less than a week but it didn't help. In fact, things have gotten so much worse since then. Sorry for the long background but I wanted you guys to know what the situation is. He walked out of our home yesterday - saying that he "can't be in place where everyone thinks so little of him." I don't have time to go into the nightmare of living with him, the destruction, the abusive behavior, the constant threats of suicide. I have three other children and this has been just terrible for everyone. He told me he is going to leave and not to contact him at all. He wants a clean break and a chance to live age-appropriate life. The thing is - he has very few friends left, he doesn't have a job, he is out of money in his account, he is severely depressed and he is an alcoholic. As his mother I am in hell, thinking about him floundering out there just looking for a place to commit his final act. He told me he wants to save enough money to go to Zurich - where they allow people to kill themselves with doctors help for a mental disorder. He has threatened suicide at least five - six times a day for the last year. In the opinion of those on this board who have been there - what should I do? Should I continue to try to help or back off? Any input very much appreciated - I feel I damned if I do and damned if I don't. Thanks.