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Ideas & Opinions To Please or Displease


My Toughest Problem Has Been Solved.
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As the quotation goes,"You can please most of the people some of the time and you can please some of the people most of the time, but you cannot please all of the people all of the time." It's Impossible. So what are the situations in your own life where you can please people and where you displease them. And what are specific situations in your life where you cannot please someone no matter how much you do or try?


meandering home 🦢☔️
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Are you asking because you're in a seemingly impossible to conquer sort of situation, like the horns of a dilamma, & searching for answers?

Have you read David Bohm's book "On Dialogue"?
I'm reminded of a sign I saw that read,"You can't please everyone all the time, you're not a pizza." in front of a pizza place where I live.

I think worrying about pleasing other's come from unnecessary guilt and unobtainable expectations. You asked for an example, so I'll give the one between me and my dad. For a long time, I wanted to be 'the good son' and make my father pleased and proud of me, because I associated my own self worth with what he thought of me. He had and bullied me for years into his own expectations of me, which were actually expectations of himself; the wife, the kids, certain kind of job, house, etc. As the tide slowly turned and I grew my own expectations and self worth(values), I no longer needed his validation or approval of who I needed to be or what I needed to have.

Likewise, it helped me not to have expectations of him on how he should act towards me. I'm a natural born peacemaker, and I love helping others, but over time I've come to realize I need to help myself too. I'm not a one size fits all person, and that's ok, because I don't think I was ever meant to be.


Personal Assistant to Professor Tiddles - Retired
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I can't think of a situation where I can't please someone no matter how hard I try, because I wouldn't waste my time interacting with such a person!

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