Too much. Much too much

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Icey, Dec 26, 2009.

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  1. Icey

    Icey Active Member

    Okay so... well. I have stalkers. Two IRL and a few online. And I totally deserve them though, which makes everything worse. Forget the people online since I don't give a rat's spleen over them but the two in real life are the ones that bother me.

    Subject number one: Let's call him W. W is supposedly autistic (lies) and has much too much of a sexual drive. When I first met him, unfortunately, I flirted a little bit with him. Mainly because I flirted with nearly everyone at the time but this time I flirted a bit too far. I didn't see him for another year when we met up again. He talks to me often and we exchange MSN messengers and we hang out. He seems like a pretty cool person until he starts sending me disgusting porn through MSN. So I tell him to stop, and he stops sending PICTURES, but instead he talks about his sexual fantasies. I tell him that I really don't want to hear them because I have a girlfriend and I'm not into guys. He then stops and doesn't talk for a month or so. Then he comes back and acts as if nothing ever happened and we start talking about Halloween and I tell him about me dressing up as a kitty for the Halloween party and then he suddenly blurts out "Oh you gonna wear that for me, sexy?" and I just brushed it off as if it was a joke. But then, at school near December when my girlfriend was absent with a flu, he suddenly pushed me into a wall and started trying to make out with me. I pushed him away and told him to f*ck off. I didn't talk to him for another year and then Halloween came around again. At a party I told my friend, of whom was dating him, that he was a creep and he kept going after me. So she got pissed off at him, and her and a few other people started harassing him about it over the phone and Internet. After a few minutes he suddenly snaps and says that he's going to murder all of my friends and rape me. And I just sat there wondering what the Hell I got myself into over just flirting with the guy. I haven't heard from him since, and I'm still not sure what he's capable of, but he constantly stalks me on other websites such as Deviantart and Facebook. Which is... really effing creepy but as long as he stays away from my doorstep, I'm cool.

    But that didn't stop me from being a flirtatious twat.

    Subject number two: Let's call him M. M is the local geek who's picked on by everyone and has a deranged look to his eye. I became friends with him because I thought he was pretty cute and I felt really bad for him. After a week he falls desperately in love with me. A month later, he went up to MY GIRLFRIEND and asked if he could be my valentine. (She nearly shattered his teeth for that.) A few months later he's kicked out of school for being violent towards a teacher. A year later he comes back. Now he's bigger and a little bit scarier. He waits for me outside my first period class just to STARE at me. He somehow finds out where I'm going for a date with my girlfriend and just... SURPRISE! Fancy seeing you here. He ends up everywhere I go and all he does is hides where he thinks I can't see him and gawks. But just last Saturday he was waiting for me outside the girl's bathroom in a Barnes and Noble, trying to look as sexy as he possible could and when I came out I nearly jumped in fright. Before he could say anything I whisked past him and told my friends on the second floor that he was there. My friend Corey decided to take matters into his own hands and he picked him up by the collar and called him out while my girlfriend smirked and watched. From what I heard he had an angry look to him (I wasn't down there I just couldn't be...). Now I'm afraid he'll do something to me, or even worse, my girlfriend because we embarrassed him and were his only "friends".

    Well.

    Here's were the confusion starts.

    Was it my fault? I know I shouldn't have been flirtatious but it's just something that comes naturally and makes me feel comfortable around people. But I just can't help but think I brought this upon myself. If I'm harmed or, God forbid, my girlfriend is harmed, I know it's my fault.

    And in the same sense I have no idea what to do.

    Restraining order? But it's my fault. I don't deserve that. And I led them on unintentionally and now it's a big mess. I'm mainly more concerned about M. But... ugh I don't know.

    Advice? Is it my fault? Is it not? What should I do?
     
  2. Sorry to hear. Some stalk my computer, see all what I wrote. No matter which board I wrote. Did ya know some listen to my calls also, he? breath so loud that I said fuck keep your nose quiet I can not hear anything and he? always stop breathing so loud... I think it was some from the phone company.. Too boring be at the work so they listen peoples calls...

    I do not know either what should do. It start because I thought one like me and I liked him back. Hurray for me what I get was lost my mental health. I thought he is gal so I did not keep me toes and falling in love..

    Powers to you and hope some can give you good advice and help you.
     
  3. History

    History Well-Known Member



    I wonder why, that you as a guy, would flirt with other guys. I find it really weird unless you are attracted to members of the same sex in the first place. But you have a girlfriend. It's very confusing.
     
  4. Icey

    Icey Active Member

    I'm a girl, actually.

    EDIT: By the way you, thinking I'm a guy actually made me laugh for the first time today XD. Good on you. Normally my girlfriend is the one being mistaken for a guy lol.
     
  5. will_1957

    will_1957 Well-Known Member

    I don't know much about the law but if I were you I'd seriously think about calling the cops and at least letting them know these things are happening. At least if the police have something on file about these guys they will know what the situation is if there are more incidences involving those two guys.
     
  6. Icey

    Icey Active Member

    You know what. I will. Normally I'm terrified of the police, though. Erk.
     
  7. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    First it isnt your fault if these people are deranged. They see what they want to see wether it fits with reality or not. Its THEIR delusions. I mean think about it, what about date rape? Was it the girl's fault that she went out on a date with him? no, of course not. You could be walking down the street naked and no one is allowed to touch you. If they do and you say no, then they are in violation.

    no one can predict what a person is going to do. You didnt really know them but they are deranged, thats not your fault. You were nice, friends flirt all the time without actually meaning anything. You've said no and they kept on when they should have let go. You care too much about them, do they care about your feelings and what you think? no..so don't take on their responsability and consequences to their actions.

    I would get a restraining order against the number 2, and if he's seen near you, just call the cops. He'll stop when he's made a few trips in the police jail...


     
  8. TWF

    TWF Well-Known Member

    Yeah, number 2 looks like he really wants you, I would get the cops too, he might go crazy after you 'embarressed' him.
     
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