Totally confused

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by spike_angel92106, Sep 22, 2008.

  1. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years
    And I feel like something is missing
    I'm not sure what it is
    :( :( :( :(
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  2. abyss

    abyss Well-Known Member

    how so? kinda vague so far. :huh:
  3. Like...
    My grandma just died this Monday, and he has been mean to me all week.
    We broke up once but got back together, because he realized that he should be supporting me, instead of fighting with me.
    He says that he wants to be with me, but sometimes, I feel like he wants to be with other girls.
    I think he watches them when I'm with them, and when I ask him what he was looking at, he'll just lie to me and say nothing
    I don't know what to do
  4. abyss

    abyss Well-Known Member

    my father was always fond of saying that boys need to sow their wild oats before they would be able to settle down happily. i know there are some exceptions to this rule, i've met a few that were ready to be loyal husbands since they were little boys, but i think it probably holds true for the general majority.

    if your boyfriend is young-ish (under 30), especially if he hasn't had much 'oat sowing' time prior to dating you, he may be feeling that itch. i don't think its really right or wrong, probably just a vestigial instinct telling them to populate the world. he may be a great guy, may even be a great guy for you... but he may not be ready for a long haul commitment right now. even if he wants to be, even if he thinks he is... usually that chaffed feeling that leads to fights when there's no reason for one, or the longing gaze at the greener grass are brought on by that impulse.

    maybe try taking a break. dating other people. you may find what you were lacking with someone else, or you may come back to eachother a little wiser and a little more ready.

    good luck
  5. Thanks, I'll try that