...totally lost interest in sex?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by /dev/null, Sep 17, 2008.

  1. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    I'm 19 years old, but since I was about 18 I seem completely uninterested in sex.
    I can't even get hard. It's pathetic.
    I (think) I've gotten smaller too, but there's no way to know for sure.
    Is there anything I can do or am I screwed for life?
    Am I the only person like this?

    This alone is a pretty good reason for suicide IMO...
    Just talking about it makes me want to start cutting... At least that way I'd feel something...
  2. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    I am sorry that this is making you feel so low.
    If it bothers you that much, there are things you can do. For instance, viagra.
    But I would try to learn to become ok with your loss of interest in sex. There is nothing wrong with being uninterested in sex.
    Maybe it could be linked to other things going on in your life? How is your life otherwise? Maybe once you start to feel better about other areas of your life, you will start to find yourself interested in having sexual relationships again too.
    But for now, don't worry. It is completely fine to not be having sex, or not be interested. I'm sure there are other members here who feel the same as you :hug:
    God Bless
  3. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    Otherwise things are going alright,
    I've got two good friends, I'm going back to school at a learning center, and things seem to be really looking up.
    I guess it's just those years of isolation and depression that did it...
    I've thought about viagra but idk if it really works... Seems lame to have to use it at my age though.
    I hoped my meds would fix the problem but they didn't....
    I feel like life has totally screwed me over...
  4. wiki

    wiki Member

    im not a guy but.. i definitly have no interest in sex either... when i was in a long relationship about two years ago.. i felt sorry for my man cuz. well... i've never been a sexual person really... i could care less about sex...
    its hard to think about dating someone. because after a while yea .. they're going to want to have sex with you...
    i hope things start to look up for you..
    i guess its different for me.. however..
    i know what its like to have no interest in sex..
    i lost my virginity because i was bored and nothing better to do...

    without sex involved you really get to know people..
    and know if they like you for who you are.. and not because you will sleep with them.. for me its a good way of weeding out jerks :cool:
  5. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Some people arn't very sexually motivated and arn't sexual until later in life.
  6. sakuragirl

    sakuragirl Well-Known Member

    everyone has there own pace. Youre still young and you may not be interested in sexual relations till later on in life. Or it could be that you havent met the right person yet. Either way its ok to not feel some urges but if your worried go to a doctor they can rule out any medical issues that might be hindering you
  7. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    Well I used to be interested in it, but never got a chance to do anything, and now I'm just not interested anymore.
    I would be scared to go to a doctor for that anyways...
    The only psychiatrist that knows about it only knows because she got a chance to read my suicide note while I was in the hospital, but she never brought it up...
    I feel like a 19 year old trapped in a 90 year old body... It really sucks...
  8. BioHomocide

    BioHomocide Well-Known Member

    I dunno If I'm similar to you or not but I too have lost interest in sex. I can't say I have always felt this way because when I was 14-17 I always wanted to fool around and I ended up being molested by a lot of older men who knew I was vulnerable and stupid.

    Now when I look back and remember.... I understand that sex isn't all that great.
    It all disgusts me.... Sex is so fucking disgusting.
  9. xpsyuvz

    xpsyuvz Active Member

    Somehow that seemed kind of classic.
    That word:

    It somehow seems to sum up most of realty.
    Sex? Yep, it seems to fit nicely into that category.

    ...Pretty, pretty flowers ... -- vomit, cancer, death.
    Yeah, smile, god. I'm going to shit on your fucking face!

    (Sorry, I don't feel like attempting to make sense.)
  10. Lethal Photography

    Lethal Photography Well-Known Member

    I have no interest in sex anymore. I don't feel any attraction to others who, just a few months ago, I would have crushed on. I just in general feel numb.
  11. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    That's exactly how I feel... Numb.. Even with everything going for me I still feel like dying.
  12. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Do you have any women in your life?

    In my experience, that's the main factor for my sex drive. Unfortunately, there is the problem of not crushing on anyone, but if you get a good female friend who's interested in more than just friendship, you'll probably get it back.
  13. abyss

    abyss Well-Known Member

    you mentioned hoping your meds would help... in alot of cases medications for mental health problems have the nasty little side effect of killing your sex drive. it may be nothing more then your meds dulling your senses and numbing you out. you should really consider talking to your doc about that. they may be able to prescribe you something differant without the side effect or add something else that will counteract the effect. look into it, it may be a simple fix.
  14. wastedmylife

    wastedmylife Well-Known Member

    do you have a low testosterone? Part of the reason I am here is because of an injury I suffered and as a result I have a lowered testosterone, it is funny I joined this forum about 10 days before this injury and this injury was the worst thing I ever had to face

    And yea having a low testosterone will make you depressed and make you have a low sex drive
  15. Fatman1966

    Fatman1966 Antiquitie's Friend

    Depression in its self can have that effect on you, it's a kind of natural defence, believe it or not, natures way of protecting you from a constantly hostile environment, at a basic level, reproduction is what evolution is all about, so try not to worry about it so much, odds are it just a temporary thing, when you feel less threatened, you will be back to having annoying erections, when you least want them, soon enough, if that's any consilation, it's not a good reason to turn the lights out and call it a day, it's perfectly natural, a quirk of evolution that kept you safe, when you were swing in the trees, with the rest of us.

    If it worked perfectly well before, at your age as you put it, it will work again, just try to relax and give it some time, erection problems tend to devolop over time in later life and even then, there are things that can be done in almost all cases.

    So one way or another, it will be back bigger and harder than ever, lol lol lol, as for shrinking, there are no medical conditions that can make that happen, it's just not possible, it just seems that way to you but its not true

    Waht can I say, I have had a scare on that front myself, thankfully I had a good consultant doctor, that pretty much covered all the angles, there are some issues, but not really a problem, so he gave the old fella a clean bill of health
  16. colt45

    colt45 Well-Known Member

    I felt the same way at one point. Mainly just becasue I stayed focused on work and my studies.

    I wish I had some more insite for you.
  17. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    I wish it was my meds... Sadly it was this way before I started taking them.
    I've got a psychiatrist appointment on the 30th, so hopefully I can force myself to mention it to the psychiatrist and he/she had better give me something to fix it...

  18. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    I'm pretty sure I'm going to kill myself tonight or tomorrow though... Dying is the only way to solve my issues. I've really got to die.
    Well, cya.
  19. DrowningInTears

    DrowningInTears Well-Known Member

    Please no, dont die over no sex drive. No sexuality can be a good thing, like you have more energy to devote to other more meaningful things. sex is just a cheap thrill anyways.
  20. /dev/null

    /dev/null Active Member

    It's not so much missing sex, rather that I will never get to be in a relationship with someone without a sex drive.
    I seriously don't know what else to live for.
    I had a noose tied up and ready yesterday but everyone came outside to wash their car, so I had to just hope they wouldn't see it, and luckily they didn't.
    The only reason I didn't is because my roommate went out and chilled with me for a while, having no idea about what I was going to do...
    I kinda got second thoughts because of that and took it down, but I believe those second thoughts are stupid and pointless...
    Anyways I think I'm going to wait a few days because they may be eventful, but I'm positive this is what I want to do.
    I have absolutely no reason to live besides my two good friends, but that just isn't enough...
    I don't even feel like I'm worthy of having them as friends most of the time anyway.
    I think killing myself will be for the best at this point.