Trouble opening up to therapist?

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by j86, Sep 29, 2007.

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  1. j86

    j86 Well-Known Member

    I was wondering if anyone else has this problem?
    Do any of you just have trouble speaking everything off your chest to him/her?
    I mean, I love him. He's a great guy and I enjoy my time with him but I feel like every session is incomplete. I can't say everything to him. I mean, I can but I don't. I want to but I just can't get everything out.
  2. Spearmint

    Spearmint Well-Known Member

    Yes..I have that problem..
  3. Lead Savior

    Lead Savior Well-Known Member

    I think of all the shit I should have told her when driving home. I always clam up once my ass hits that couch and I just stare at the floor.
  4. brainstorm

    brainstorm Well-Known Member

    After a few years it got better. I still don't trust her completely, though.
  5. liveinhope

    liveinhope Well-Known Member

    i think what im going to say when i am on my way sit there say not a lot and then am angry with myself all the way back and ive seen her for 2 years now recently its been x 2 weekly and thats a bit better as the gap between visits isnot as long i think its a common problem if we could all walk in le it all out they would be out of a job :smile:
  6. Smilie46

    Smilie46 Well-Known Member

    Have u ever made a list of things you would like to discuss to take with you. Have you discussed (with the therapist) why you have trouble opening up.

    I have a hundred and one different things to say, each a hundred and one different ways. Its very hard to explain them to someone though.

  7. Nessarose

    Nessarose Well-Known Member

    I always forget what I want to say or chicken out. I wrote her a few letters once and I was afraid she was going to hospitalize me. She's nice, but sometimes she looks at me like, "What the hell?"
  8. Smashed__

    Smashed__ Well-Known Member

    yeah, but I didn't get a chance. lol he talked about his life after each sentence of mine.:mad: so I quit, i'm no worse for wear..
  9. Blackness

    Blackness Guest

    yeah it's so bad.

    I just lie to her about everything, just make up pety problems, she doesnt know about my real issues. Though she's reccommend to write stuff down for her.
    Sometimes I thik its easier not to talk. Going to see her just makes me more anxious and screwed up.
    :( meh
  10. lost_child

    lost_child Well-Known Member

    yes.. I think alot of people have trouble opening up to their therapist. I definately do, and it drives me insane...the words are in my head, but they won't come out.

    Most people end up in therapy because life has become unbearable, to then speak about something that is so painful is extremely difficult...

    I've been seeing my counsellor for 18 months, I don't trust very easily and its taken that time to just trust her..she is fab, she knows me, she knows how I'm feeling without me having to say any words, she knows what I'm thinking...she does seem to relate to me, which helps...but still I can't talk about the reasons I'm in counselling, my usual reply is I don't know..or its stupid, its crazy...

    I remember I once told her that the room was like a vaccum..before u enter in ur head u have conversations today I will say this, I will speak about that, and then u walk in the room sit down and ur minds blank..50 minutes later u walk out, and all those thoughts, feelings that u wanted to talk about start to filter back in and u find urself feeling worse then before u walked in.

    Have you tried writing down what u want to say..I know send emails to my counsellor and we discuss that email, well try to...

    Keep trying u will find the words soon, and when u do it will become easier to talk and open up with ur counsellor.

    Thinking of you

    Lost x
  11. bleach

    bleach Well-Known Member

    Im having the same problem. been going to a therapists for 4 months nd i dont see how its leading to any improvement. Ive also lied to him a lot to protect myself, I am very emotionally guarded and dont really want anyone to know my problems even though I want help. Im thinking of either breaking it off with him or switching therapists, I wont have health insurance in a year and I dont want to waste that time..
  12. SolaLola

    SolaLola New Member

    I'm the same way... I've been in therapy since I was 16 (I'm 20 now)... and there are still things I can't say. It sucks.
  13. i have this problem. i think everyone does.

    my biggest issue is that i'm afraid that she's going to think that i'm absolutely crazy and have me put into an institution.
  14. xXWhateverItTakesXx

    xXWhateverItTakesXx Forum Buddy

    I have the same problem and now I have been dumped for it :sad:
  15. JobForAVictim

    JobForAVictim Well-Known Member

    I have trouble in therapy because I am so used to lying. It's just become natural for me. So it's hard for me to open up so I can get help.
    Furthermore, I cannot guarantee at any time that I'm not lying. I've been known to decide to lie about how everything is going, or to try to scam drugs that I could use recreationally, and things like that.
    This makes my therapy near useless, because it's nearly impossible for my p-doc or counselor to help me when I'm often either not telling the truth or trying to manipulate them.
  16. numberman

    numberman Well-Known Member

    I am sympathetic to all of the above posts, particularly the fact that the posters know that their reticence is causing problems

    Any therapist worth his or her salt would not stick anyone in an institution, for a start I do not think that they can legally ( although I might be wrong)

    More importantly, some of the problem could be the face-to-face interaction involved.That is why this forum and the associated anonymity is so important

    "Spill the beans" on the computer and see what happens, bear in mind that we can offer a helping hand but that hand regrettably does not have a magic wand attached
  17. flowerpot

    flowerpot Well-Known Member

    I can barely talk about anything personal in person.
    So they can't even help me.
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