Trouble with the ladies and am so lonely

Discussion in 'Help Me! I Need to Talk to Someone.' started by Uri234, Oct 10, 2013.

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  1. Uri234

    Uri234 Active Member

    I am so lonely and am in trouble with the ladies. I'm already 28 years old and never had sex or received any positive attention from beautiful ladies and this is making feel (emotionally) very lonely and depressed.
     
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  2. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    A question I would like to ask is - how do you define beautiful?
     
  3. Uri234

    Uri234 Active Member

    I don't really know honestly because I feel attracted to many different women with very different looks. Most of the time I feel attracted to more than one woman.

    I am also suffering from a relatively rare disorder called traumatophobia. Traumatophobia is the fear of getting injured like being cut with a very sharp knife or being burned by something very hot or getting shot by someone.

    I rarely even leave the house or interact with people because of my fear of injury. Injury is painful for me so I try to avoid situations where I could get injured at all cost.

    You can read more about my disorder in these links below:

    http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/library/traumatophobia/
    http://www.phobiasource.com/traumatophobia-fear-of-injury/
    http://weirdphobia.com/traumatophobia/
    http://www.fearofstuff.com/humans/fear-of-injury/
     
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  4. itmahanh

    itmahanh Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    'K, let's break this down. You're lonely. And this is a good place to be when you are feeling lonely. People to chat with or share posts between. Getting some answers about how you're feeling. And you're doing that...hope it helps fend of the loneliness a bit.

    What kind of trouble are you in with the ladies? I'm not trying to be rude or a smartass and I'm in no way making fun of or belittling you. You say that you have never had sex or gotten attention from the ladies? So what kind of trouble could you possibly be in? The fact that you're 28 and never had sex with a female means nothing. Having sex with another person does not define who you are. It doesn't magically make you feel or look different. You should be writing...I'm 28, have never had casual, uncaring sex with a woman and I'm proud of myself for that.

    Like fighting_the_tide asked, what do you define as beautiful. And further to that...why is it so important that you get those things from a beautiful woman? If you need a woman that is beautiful on the outside from using makeup and clothes to highlight what she thinks of her body makes her beautiful, then you aren't giving yourself much credit as a man. You will get a one night stand, will of had the sex that you seem to think you need and then the next morning, find yourself still feeling empty and lonely.

    I would like you to post some more. Tell us a little more about yourself. And see if you can't find the answers you need.
     
  5. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    What you're saying is that you are lonely - but this fear of injury is causing you the issues of lack of interaction with people, which doesn't help. Accidents and injuries around the home are just as likely as those outside - with or without people. But allowing it to consume you is swallowing up any potential you have of having a life you can make for yourself.

    Are you having any counselling regarding this fear?
     
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