Ideas & Opinions Unsure About Appearance

[Reaver]

I don't remember when this started, but for a long while now, whenever I look in the mirror, I can't really tell what's good and what's bad. Wouldn't say I'm ugly, but I also wouldn't say I'm handsome or anything either; I have absolutely no idea what to think. I always worry about what other people will think, but I don't even know if I actually have anything to worry about since I don't know if anything about my appearance is good or not. Does anyone else know what's going on here or am I just crazy?

Tagging @Ash600, @Sunspots and @bubblebear as you've seen what I look like before. I don't know if any of you remember me, but if you do...
was anything particularly good or bad? If there was anything bad, do you have any suggestions for what would look better?

I'm hoping that if I can figure out what's what, I won't feel as much anxiety about it as I do.

 

[Sunspots]

Hey Reaver

I understand that feeling although I guess I'm probably a little more pessimistic about my appearance.

I thought you looked pretty cool. I can't think of anything you should change or what would look better. I remember thinking how anxious you looked but if you'd seen me an hour before I probably looked pretty similar.

You're good as you are, you should have confidence in that

 

[Reaver]

Hey Reaver

I understand that feeling although I guess I'm probably a little more pessimistic about my appearance.

I thought you looked pretty cool. I can't think of anything you should change or what would look better. I remember thinking how anxious you looked but if you'd seen me an hour before I probably looked pretty similar.

You're good as you are, you should have confidence in that

Wow, really? It's kinda hard to believe that I could look cool in any way. What exactly looked cool?
I knew I would look anxious, as that was my first time going out for something like that in so many years. I'd only been going out for appointments on occasion before then. So, basically, I'm okay with that.

I would like to believe that I look good as I am. I think I am a little closer to it now, at least, so thank you for that

Also, just thought I'd mention, I'm a bit surprised that you're pessimistic about your appearance.

 

[Sunspots]

Sorry I haven't replied sooner, been a crazy weekend and I'm a forgetful tit.

I remember thinking your t-shirt was really cool and you had great hair.

I'm a bit surprised that you

I've always hated my appearance and it's got worse as I've got older. I struggle to even look in the mirror now. I used to try and distract from the rest of me by having mad hair but I think I'm too old to pull off pink or purple hair now

 

[Reaver]

I remember thinking your t-shirt was really cool and you had great hair.

Ah, I’m guessing you’re a fan of purple then? It’s my favourite colour.
Kinda surprised anyone would like my hair, but I am also glad because I do put a fair bit of effort into it — more so now than before. I’m definitely feeling a lot better about it now.

I've always hated my appearance and it's got worse as I've got older. I struggle to even look in the mirror now. I used to try and distract from the rest of me by having mad hair but I think I'm too old to pull off pink or purple hair now

Aw, really? You looked great, from what I can remember. I don’t think you’re too old for colourful hair at all.

 

[Pebble mouse]

I don't remember when this started, but for a long while now, whenever I look in the mirror, I can't really tell what's good and what's bad. Wouldn't say I'm ugly, but I also wouldn't say I'm handsome or anything either; I have absolutely no idea what to think.

Hi there Reaver! I can relate to this! I posted here a long time ago about being satisfied with my appearance, but that's not really the whole story. I vacilate between thinking i look OK (or even "good"), ugly, and sometimes what i see in the mirror is REALLY bad. So, I'm pretty much all over the place! Think this is probably my BPD. Try not to obsess over it. That's the only advice I can give.