1. Twinkle ☆ Twinkle

    Twinkle ☆ Twinkle Well-Known Member

    I'm 19. and a virgin and sometimes it seem like with the pressure everyone seems to put on sex it feel like if your a virgin going into your 20's your kinda lame. Or you can't get laid because you're ugly and fat. I'm not ugly and fat though.

    And if you say your a virgin and your cute. Some guys might not even believe you.

    I fucking hate that.
  2. whoaaxxsamm

    whoaaxxsamm Well-Known Member

    I don't think It's pathetic.
    Pathetic is having a whole bunch of meaningless sex.
    I have a thing for virgins to be honest.
    I like that whole innocence.
    Don't stress about something like this.

    PS I'm fat and ugly, and am not a virgin.
    So, I'm sure that beautiful, skinny people could be virgins, if fat, ugly people can have sex.
  3. IAD121212

    IAD121212 Well-Known Member

    It's your body. Up to you what you do with it. If you NEVER have sex it's nobody else's business but yours. Forget what others think. Your opinion on this matter is the only one to consider. Do NOT get pressured into doing something you don't want to do.

    And if a guy tells you he'll love you more if you let him have sex with you (or something along those lines) take my word for it... he's lying. Guys are like that... I should know. I've told my fair share of lies to get a woman into bed in the past. :eek:hmy:
  4. SuicidalAgain

    SuicidalAgain Well-Known Member

    I was 19 when I lost my virginity. It was so sudden. He wasn't even my boyfriend. I don't regret it, but I guess that I felt that pressure you're talking about and went for it. Of course I was attracted and I enjoyed it, but that wasn't the way I pictured my first time to be.

    There is nothing wrong with being a virgin though, I think it's cute and that you shouldn't give in to any pressure society may put on your virginity. Take your time, I bet you'll have a wonderful first time if you give yourself to the right person :)
  5. mulberrypie

    mulberrypie Well-Known Member

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  6. No_Life

    No_Life Well-Known Member

    there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. i'm male, 17 and a virgin (i've never even had a second date), in noy fat or ugly, just not confident and i dont want to rush into anything and have meaningless pointless sex. if you want to wait until you find the perfect guy/girl first then it's your business and yours alone.
  7. 2-D

    2-D Well-Known Member

    im 21/male/virgin
    yeah, im an unsocial sort (also fat/ugly type) i dont care about not having friends or what not, but for some reson i would really like a Girl friend (not even had a first date) and if that stays the same (the not having a first date) i would most likely consider meaningless - probs the only experiance i actually want, but given my 'anti humanity' thing - its a very odd feeling >.<
  8. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    I'm turning 30 next year and I'm still a virgin, mostly by choice, because I don't want to have sex with just anyone. It has to actually mean something.
  9. mcviking

    mcviking Well-Known Member

    My first time was with a slutty girl in the neighborhood that will pretty much fuck anyone. It cost me a trip to Wendi's and a pack of cigarettes. I was 19.

    Point of the story, A, don't be that girl. B, It would have been nice to have my first time with someone I actually cared about. I have had lots of meaningless sex, and it pales in comparison to the real deal.

    So what if your a virgin, being a girl and a virgin is alot more acceptable than being a man and a virgin. You can give it up anytime you want to, but should you?

    I would say wait for the right guy, not necessarily who you are going to marry, but a sweet guy that will treat you right, not some douche bag frat boy or something.
  10. klodo

    klodo Well-Known Member

    I'm a 43 year old virgin now. I never thought I would find anyone even when I was 15/16 and I didn't either so I was just being realistic, not pessimistic at all. Its so easy to stay a virgin for life it always surprises me when people are astounded. There is only way to have sex if you are male and that is to go looking for it. If you have some mental illness, shyness or whatever else which stops you chasing women then you stay a virgin forever.
  11. MonikaM

    MonikaM Member

    Where do people get this crazy idea that only skinny hot people can or should have sex?

    Turn off your televisions people.
  12. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    the thing about fat and ugly is a myth...if you've seen The Maury Show its FULL of fat people who had kids etc...I think they have more sex than skinny people...

    sex should be when you're ready with a person you feel good with...I gave my virginity at 21 to some guy and regretted it so much....I was pressured from so called friends who said I wasn't normal to not have sex but you know what...its better to have sex later with a person you get along with and feel totally comfortable...because then its more than the motion of sex...
  13. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    only skinny and pretty people can have sex?
    ...okay--even porn is much MUCH more diverse in cast than just 'skinny' or 'attractive' people.
    You got a penis or a vagina? Great! You can have sex! :eek:
    omg! Even old people could have sex!! no way!

    Who woulda' thunk it? :tongue:

    It was my 16th birthday when I lost my virginity (and no. that wasn't my 'present' XD)
    After it was over, I was in pain and felt like I'd made a big mistake--- even though I'd been with my boyfriend for over a year and was sure I loved him more than anything. After the first time, it's natural to feel... 'dirty' or guilty. I felt both things. And ouch, also. I felt very ouch and uncomfortable.
    Even though I wanted to do it- it was completely mutual and I figured I was ready, I still felt like it was 'wrong'.
    It took a few times before I was more comfortable with the feeling-- and actually started to like it. Then the 'wrong' feeling in the back of my mind disappeared.

    After being in a relationship with the same guy for another 5-6 years and having him dump me suddenly; I wish I had nothing to do with him and want my virginity back. -__- if only it worked that way...
    Now I feel like I've been ruined and no one would want me even if I actually wanted to try and find a second 'love of my life'.
    shit sucks, yo'!
  14. NotThisLife

    NotThisLife Well-Known Member

    I'm 25, and I didn't lose my virginity till I was 23. And that may not count in some eyes. If not, I'm cursed to be a virgin forever. Crap, I need to stay out of sexual discussions, they make me sad
  15. Blue_Sky

    Blue_Sky Well-Known Member

    I honestly really don't care. When I was younger it wasn't something I thought of cause I had so many other problems to deal with it wasn't something that entered my mind really. Now that I'm 24 and still a virgin, it doesn't feel weird cause I don't put that label on myself, I don't think of it. I'm only reminded of it when other people remind me. A few years ago I used to feel insecure about it, more that I haven't even been kissed or anything than the sex part. I am sort of embarrassed to admit that rather than just being a virgin. I look at girls my age or younger pushing a stroller and i'm so glad that i'm a virgin rather than dealing with being a single teen mom. I don't feel any pressure or insecurity anymore cause I don't care and I don't think there's anything weird about it. I would never give in to pressure or let anyone make me feel lame about it. I always thought that it's better to not know what it's like than to know what i'm missing out on and going to bars or clubs to satisfy that need that I would creatve by doing it. I kind of want to live in ignorance about it untill i meet someone who I know i'll be with for a long time. Or not, if it never happens then I can live with that too. I wouldn't be the first person in history to die a virgin. I hate how the media makes a person out to be some kind of leper if they are a virgin, I don't pay any attention to those kind of movies, and I don't watch tv anymore so it never gets to me. There's no age limit for anything, everyone experiences certain things at a time that's right for them.
  16. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    I'm 20 years old and I'm still a virgin. I dislike sexual acts quite a lot, so as long as I stay away from temptation (not a problem since no ones interested in me anyway and even if they were they'd have to be pretty darn special for me to ever even consider doing *that*) then I'm fine and don't care what I am or what I'm not in terms of sexual 'status'. Don't let peer pressure get to you, it's not worth giving up something important in your life because a bunch of people you won't even know in five years time have had different experiences than you and choose to live their lives differently.
  17. ariel2013

    ariel2013 Member

    Sex is so over rated. I wish I never had it. Or I wish I would of waited until I am married. I envy you guys!!!!
  18. Matrias

    Matrias Active Member

    thats the creepiest thing ive ever read, replace the 21 with 22 and bingo! identical, too bad your a dude mate gees :worthy:
    wasnt gonna respond but it was almost word for word i was dumbfounded geebus krysty!
  19. 2-D

    2-D Well-Known Member

    lol, im also half a globe away >.<

    and yeah; creepy things sometimes happen
  20. plates

    plates Well-Known Member