Was your abuser male or female?

Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by mixedemotions, Mar 27, 2009.


What sex was your abuser?

  1. Male

    39 vote(s)
  2. Female

    9 vote(s)
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  1. mixedemotions

    mixedemotions Forum Buddy

    So, I'm currently studying Child care, and I my current unit is Safegaurding Children.

    And it made me wonder if abusers are mostly male or female.

    So can you answer the poll..
  2. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    most sexula abuse is male from best i know, but that doesnt mean that women are incapable of it.
  3. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member


    But I know somebody who was abused by a woman.

    Also one reason why the numbers are weighted to men is that the majority of all abusers are heterosexual and the abuse of boys by women is a much grayer area. The concept of the young man who gains experience from the much older woman is still seen as a badge of honor in society as opposed to abuse. In addition to men facing a stigma when they've become abused.

    Not that it's any easier for women.
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  4. mixedemotions

    mixedemotions Forum Buddy

    I've realised that the above two posts are about sexual abuse...

    there is other forms of abuse.
    and neglect
  5. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    thats why i said
    but you didnt specify.

    in regards to other forms, my mother was the person who abused me through physical, emotional and neglectful.

    so theres no option for alternative abuse.
  6. mixedemotions

    mixedemotions Forum Buddy

    Didn't think I'd have to specify, it was just a general open poll. I have just realised that maybe i should of made the poll multi choice.
    Some are unlucky enough to get it all.
  7. wheresmysheep

    wheresmysheep Staff Alumni

    that we are sadly.
    but c'est la vie.
  8. Starlite

    Starlite Senior Member

    males! yes plural males!!!!
  9. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

  10. Aaron

    Aaron Well-Known Member

  11. Remedy

    Remedy Chat & Forum Buddy

    It was a guy. Never hear about women abusing, though it happens.
  12. Fantasy Addict

    Fantasy Addict Active Member

    I was never abused badly, but I can speak for my mother and sister, both of whom were abused by my father.

    So, yeah, another man. I really hope I never turn out like him.
  13. SuperBo

    SuperBo Well-Known Member

  14. Little_me

    Little_me Well-Known Member

    I voted "female" by accident but my abuser was male. He wasn't much older than me (and I was 7) it hurts much to see that he lives a normal life with friends, girlfrend, hobbies etc. when I live in hell because of him...
  15. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    my sister puts all responsibility on my father. i yelled to my sister that my mother had responsibility too. she neglected us and failed to protect us, and yeah, she beat me when i couldn't eat and terrified me when i showed i was scared/ill by threatening i'd be locked up. my sister fails to remember that..
  16. The_8th_Wonder

    The_8th_Wonder senior Member

    Interesting results... I wont vote because I haven't been abused..
  17. sithspit

    sithspit Well-Known Member

    Mine was male. It was made worse when my parents thought I was lying when I finally told them.
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